No turkey on Christmas night

Twas the day of Christmas
and all through the house not a sign of a turkey, not even a grouse
not a leg or a breast not a neck a thigh or a wing
Where to heck was this thing

There was a platter to my chagrin What was the matter?
It was covered in meat balls, gravy, potatoes to get fatter
No stuffing or cranberry sauce nothing but batter

Spring rolls and veggies, Sheppard's pie and dreaded green beans
Asparagus ,bread rolls and turnip, things obscene
I rose to my feet to see what was the matter
I must have looked like the Mad Hatter

No turkey in the fridge no turkey in the oven
this must of been the work of a nasty nasty coven
So there I sat sad little old me
Then a thought hmmm it could have been that tree

That Christmas tree that Christmas tree
yes it had it in for me
From the day I purchase thee
you have had it out for me
but could it have been the tree
oh me. oh my I think I want to cry
No turkey, no stuffing, no meat pie

I ponder the day I ponder the night
and just when Christmas would soon be out of sight
I hear a voice come out of the light
How was my first Christmas dinner tonight
and that made it alright

Saint Nick is an elf with a sleigh and a grey grey beard
A twinkle in his eye he is not to be feared
Nor is one so dear trying to make her wish so clear

I missed my turkey I will not lie
but what my daughter has given me
has at times made me angry , cross and wry
Today, today she brought a smile to my soul and a tear to my eye
all grown up she is no longer five

Traditions are kept but not written in stone
Changes are good they do not break bones
The turkey and I are not alone
we both do live to write our poems

A Merry Christmas to all and all goodnight

family, friends and turkeys did delight

and yes that makes it all just right

Shopping a simple experience

It is supposed to be a simple experience is it not. You choose something you give money or plastic. The purchase is bagged you exchange pleasantries and leave. First I should have known the night would not go right from the start as it would mean that I would have my wife alone with me for more than 5 minutes this holiday season.

Not to be as my daughter rushed in the door saying the bus never came so we had to drive her to work in the opposite direction of my shopping trek. Half way to her work and stuck in traffic she called her work to advise them and they said it was quiet and to stay home. So off through the traffic back to the shopping center we drove. AN hour and a half to go to a center that takes us fifteen minutes max.

Now of course everyone is hungry so we ate no we cannot just grab a burger no a full meal. Then to the shopping mall. I was astonished I found what I wanted in two minutes. I was at the cash ready to pay when the clerk said that is the french one and then told me there is no English it is the West Island and we are sold out unlike Anjou that has only English ones. A pause here in thinking have been in retail would you not make a switch or transfer some or perhaps your buyer might think about geographical locations. Back to the story of my night.

Disappointed I said I will go to Sears and see if they have the phones that I wanted. After complains about boot being too hot or muscle cramps from those I was shopping with I found the phones on sale wow. No clerk in sight. I went to the next department only to be told that the discount was only available at the electronics section . after waiting for a harassed individual Scan the item and low and behold the wrong price. So I said well you owe me an extra ten percent off. He said Sears does not do that . I said it is provincial law it does not matter what Sears wants it is a law. I ask to speak to the store manger, he is not in tonight when the next one , there is no one sir. At this time I started to chuckle SO there is not a person in the store that is responsible, yes sir that is correct. What is your store manager's name , I do not know Sir..

Well murder is still a chargeable offence so I left the store and came home for a coffee and a quiet night when I arrived both my son' s decided to have friends over. I ran for my den the tranquil state of medieval babes and somber lighting when I sat down my chair fell over as on of the wheels had fallen off and had not been replaced by my son, and the shower overflowed and water leaked into my son's bedroom. Yep that was my simple shopping tour for a friend's gift that I am going out alone to do tomorrow morning.

Off course if I believed in things I could blame this all on that Christmas tree but of course there is no such thing as tree gremlins is there!

So what is embarassing to a slave

How naked can a slave be . Well lets see hmmm with out clothes is pretty naked but not for a slave . This is just their business suit. They almost become accustom to wearing it. that they feel almost dressed and do enjoy the attention paid to their naked flesh. SO how do you get a slave naked show the areas that are so private no one sees unless they show you . Opening of their mouths for inspection is one , the vagina is another but for most it is that dark area that icky spot that is only seen by tissue . The area that they cannot see so they never know how clean or what it looks like. Most hate the idea of it being touched or entered but to have it displayed opened for all to see how well they keep themselves that is embarrassing . More then it being exposed is that they have to stand there hold their ass cheeks apart for all to see until their Dom decides it is enough. In this position they never see the faces of those that look the never see the expressions on the onlookers faces they only see the light of the flash as they must hold perfectly still. How embarassing to have to strat to open up pulling at those stubborn cheeks until they open to the Masters desire.

Ownership

I have never gone by title such as Dom, Top or Master my name has always been CLoud. I felt that was enough for me and any sub or slave that did not think so would shortly after a session with me as to what I was.

Titles I have always felt cannot be taken but must be bestowed on a person. Such as knight hood the Queen decides not the one becoming the knight. They can choose to refuse or accept. I was given the name of CLoud Darklight because of the early day s I played in a club called the Green Door. My nick name was Cloud and Darklight came from the area of the club that I like to play in There was reason for the name.

Now i have been asked to accept the title of Master by a slave that I now own. I have accepted the use of the name before but only in private and only by one , minion. minion felt the need to leave me for a while as I could not meet all her needs at the time. she has offer herself to me once again giving me total ownership of her body mind and soul. There is nothing I relish more than property . she is that my property and so proclaimed that she be known as minion of Cloud. she has asked of me to announce that she is now my property and so I do this now for all to see.

A heavy responsibility for me and great deal of trust on her part as she will be put to the test by me.

Cloud Darklight Master of minion

the tree has life

I first stumble on Mr. Christmas Tree when out looking for presents, His girth was that of the most important elf that I know of and almost had a twinkle in his pinecone. The other trees have thinness about them like they had spent most of their time eating wisely and working out. Mr Christmas Tree looked as if he had dined on many a squirrel and their nuts.

I decided that if he were still there I would offer him the position.

Low and behold he was still there almost sporting a grin and a spirit of Puck was in the air around him. Off into my trunk which must of displeased him a bit, not being offer the front seat at least. I learnt of his displeasure when I removed him and tried to close the trunk. The latch would not catch I swear his tiny needles on his outstretched branches fouled the locking mechanism. Causing me to spend the next hour trying to fix the lock. But of course this is a dead tree. Just for information sake if you are decapitated, you are suppose to be conscious for 20 seconds and I truly think it is much longer for trees. Once out he resembled more of a bush than a Christmas tree. So much so, that I had to take the doors off to get him in. I do believe that like the puffer fish he inflated some sort of bladder for once the doors were off he seemed so much smaller. I had an inkling this tree had life and will of its own.

No further incidence occurred until I decorated the tree. Finishing off the last touches and filling the water container to full I sat back and admired my handy work. There was just something not right , it did not quite look like a Christmas tree. I said out loud it just did not look right and then decided to worry about it in the morning.

Morning came quickly at 2 am with a crash, bang and splash of water. Then I realized I was calling this tree a man, it was obliviously offended. So much so that it meddled with the trunk latch because of it’s displeasure of the sitting arrangement. It tried to show that it was not a tree because of my remark about it not being a tree. And when it was finally dressed up I did not bestow great compliments on it so it threw itself to the floor in frustration.

A light went on, what does any Dom do with a naughty submissive? Well I got the rope and tied it up so it could not move, I twisted it and turned it roughly, examining every square inch of it’s naked pine needle for the best exposure. When satisfied I tied it into position. Such knots and coursing of ropes had not been seen before in the restraining of a tree. I pierced its trunk and bound its branches. I hooked ornaments in the most tender of places and wrapped burning lights to its body. The last indignation was a star that I force the point into the branch at top. This time I stood back and admired my work my little tree stood tall and straight. It looked bright and gleaming, it was my Christmas Tree.

Well that is my story of the little Christmas tree funny as I turn out the light I thought I could here a sigh of contentment from the tree. Just like a sub treat them nicely and they will do everything they can to bug you. Tie them up min a corner push them around and beat them into submission and they smile and sigh

Sunday Munch

Sorry could not get the link to show up here but if you go to my links at the side of this blog and go all the way down you will find the link under munch group it is the very last link on the list of links.

enjoy

Tired of Christmas shopping

Come on down to the munch in Montreal. A get away form the frenzy of shopping. We get to talk about tying up subs instead of packages. Our version fo the 12 days of Christmas is different you could say. Most definitely you will find some who want to be tied to a sleigh and others that wish to drive one. As far as dressing up well we can give you several suggestions of how to make naked more Christmassy.

We put bells on toes and other places as well, oh lights yes garland and tinsel so if it is Christmas ideas for gifts or parties come down to the munch and meet others of similar nature talk a lot and eat a bit and make some new friends. Just follow the link and leave a comment to show your interest. Munch group.

Comment from newbies

I was told by some new friends that they were worried about the protocols that I have that they might not remember. I had to laugh and related a story of a sub that had speaking protocols for vanilla situations , during meals and play session. It was so nice to see such confusion on their faces. So I answered before they questioned. It controls the sub and if done right adds an edge to the play.

Some take it to the extreme with rules for walking talking where your eyes can go and when they can pee or how long they can be away from their Dom. all well and good but simply said I do not want to do the work of memorizing countless pages of rules I will be too busy correcting little details to enjoy the play. What I do is set rules which just reflect politeness and common courtesy. What I do that I am very st rick on is health. All my slaves must exercise daily take care to eat properly. Bad health habits are simply not allowed when there are with me no if ands or buts. They are given time to correct and when the dead line passes they are punished for infractions. Such as staying up too late or, not eating properly, not exercising .

So yes rules and protocols are important just not too many

beauty stretched

I think that the best position that shows off a woman's body is stretched up to the rafters. This one is just about perfect as she is even on a table top. can I say more, yes she would look a little nicer with the cuffs and chains on . We will just let the picture talk for it's self.
Now that would keep me warm on a cold winter's night I just wonder if my slave has a table like that as she does have the body.

It is the start of Christmas

Yes as usual I am getting a cold so that is the first sign it is Christmas. Plans have been altered because of others being sick. I seem to be on the road a lot yet not going anywhere as much as dropping off and picking up others. The normal family arguments are rising up in the family and list of Christmas gifts growth with of course the ultimate question do you think they will like it.

Ah traditions, it seems to be a tradition to bring your emotional baggage to a head around Christmas . Yes those wonderful period pieces showing lavish parties, dancing and merriment just do not seem to happen at least not for me. It use to be when friends and family mixed freely and all were welcome at your door during Christmas. Now well invitations are given out by who is talking to who and what house is holding the main event . We are slighted when in-laws do not travel thousands of miles uprooting their established traditions every Christmas as if it is written in stone what must happen.

A suggestion was made a few years ago to have a traveling Christmas dinner. entrees at one house then off to another for the main course oh and then desert finally finishing at one house and open the presents. Well the start of world war three. Who was doing what what houses some did not want to walk or travel more than 20 minutes away. Oh we can't go there she over cooks the turkey their house is too small no not enough cars to do that route oh and they do not like them so they won't go in the same car. Christmas carols you want us to sing Christmas carols on the street are yo nuts . Ya I guess that was a bad idea trying to find the fun of the season and bring it out in people. Have them get along for one day of the year hmmm what was I thinking.

So now I portray my self as a Christmas junkie certain decorations go up in November and then the Tree in December. I go out and if I am with someone they will hear me sing a Carol or two. Most will think I was just released from an institute. I will extend my hand to strangers and wish them a Merry Christmas , not a happy Christmas nor happy Holidays. As for my extended family I will be a little more cautious extend my hand as I want it back so perhaps a tip of the hat or a nod will suffice for them.

The tree decorating what fun getting together with friends and family and decorate our trees with a glass of wine. I believe there is not a special way of decorating tree each should have there own life as each only has but one Christmas. Whoa what am I saying noooooo silver balls on every sixteenth branch a blue ornament with a green light are you serious who taught you to decorate ? Santa ah yes it was Santa. A friend told a story of her grandson decorating for her it was a blast for me to hear I could see the wild eyed excitement racing around as if Christmas might pass before he finished as no matter where it when it was perfect in his eyes. Hmmm seem to have lost that part of Christmas some where with the idea of singing carols. I make sure now to not put everything where it is suppose to go. So each Christmas has a character of it's own.

Unfortunately the day I love the most I also dread. I sit and wait for the arguements or to be asked why I spoke to that person. The best is to have my life reviewed by some drunk inlaw telling me how I did not raise my children well as they do come over near this slobbering religous fanatic or thier clothing is not up to his high standard of spilled sauce on white smear by his use of your tablecloth as a napkin. Of course blaming the plate for not being large enough to catch all the food falling from an over stuffed mouth.

When I was young one Christmas I was very sick high fever and all. Sitting on the couch for the nightly tree lighting , back then you could not leave the lights on too long as they over heated, my eyes blurry from the feever saw what I think was fairies dancing on my tree. I watch for the ten minutes and fell asleep with the idea that Christmas was alive and dancing in my tree.


Well now this is Christmas no snow, no carols, fake smiles and well wishes. Gifts have to be larger than last year or at least more expensive. Meals must be low carb with non saturated that and o course non sugar deserts with strange dishes tha tI never saw at Christmas cottage cheese what , no I do not want yogurt on my boild turkey breast with food colouring in it to make it resemble canberry sauce. Who does that to Christmas what did they put in the eggnog oops that is right no egg in thenog as a mater of fact no nog either hmmm that could be the problem.

As for me. I still look with the eyes of child at this time luckily they are old and blurry and seem to see things as I once did as a sick little boy.

It is not suppose to hurt

After a very long hiatus I had a play session with an old friend. Yes I had given littleone a few swats but that is not quite the same as a whole session, which lasted about 8 hours off and on.
Byt the fourth hour I noticed my shoulder was very stiff hmmm well I had made a few new toys and I thought I am just not used to them. So I ordered a nice hot bath and relaxed for a while then afterwards a nap till supper was ready.

After supper I decided to get her dressed for the evening of entertainment some new friends of ours were coming over. So I thought chains a nice start. Do you know how much chains weight with a sore shoulder and back now? Fighting with the chains to secure them I decided to paint on my favorite canvas a slaves ass. Do you know how much your hands shake after straining your arms. Not my best work .

I made a rope harness almost tied my self to the slave, then I demonstrated the punishment stick to the newbies ouch, that hurt me as no sub was involved. The whip I had made, well the first time was great a nice sound in the air but then the newbie sub asked to see it again. And then my slave want desperately to feel the touch of it. Then my arm fell off.

Today my feet hurt, my ankles are swollen, and the back is not yet straight. My arms hurt, my wrists crack and my neck just does not want to turn. I had cereal this morning as it did not require me to crack an egg or any other violent motion like buttering toast.

I will from now on put warning labels on all the toys I make "WARNING EXCESSIVE USE MAY CAUSE INJURY TO THE DOM".

As for me well I have fallen out of Dom shape and must whip my self back into it. You know what tht means? A certain slave's ass is going to be red and hurting for next little while I work on her to regain my shape.

punishment .

It is such a nasty word. It sounds bad before any mention is given as to the reason for punishment. I deliver punishment coldly. They are informed why and the reason for the quantity of strokes there is no warm up and no retrain ts. They must hold themselves in position for the strokes. They are given a mantra to state after each stroke. After all strokes are given they are given some time to ponder their error. I give no loving touches from the start of the punishment to the end of quiet time. I remain in the same room as they are but no contact so they can focus on how to improve themselves. I state clear rules for them they have chance to clarify them. I do not punish if the have a good reason and I punish less if it was something they decided upon with knowledge of consequence.

I will punish a slave for breaking rules with out thought towards consequence. I do not like it when subs are mindless or use poor judgement. If something comes up on the spur of the moment and I am not available to decide. I expect the slave to think on how I would answer or decide with full knowledge that they will be punished . At least they can give an explanation as to why they made the decision.

A punishment need not be given as if it is written in stone I want the sub have some hope , with out that they will not grow and make worse decisions in the future.

Throw stones now

The title is from a friend that commented on my last entry. There are too many views and ideas about the lifestyle for any one to sit back and hurl a stone searabbit. Beside that you hit on the head for me a problem that is always mentioned to me by Doms and subs. That in the vanilla world many subs are in dominant positions and must take on the role. I have been told it is hard to change when they come home or to accept the dominance of their mates. The Doms sometimes go through this also in reverse but understandable it is easier for the Dom in a subservient position to change over. SO a question to you . What should the Dom do when the sub has a hard time changing roles? Should they allow the time for it or should the be even stricter near the change from person in charge to sub?

I know there is a lot of variance in the answer to such a black and white question but it is of interest to me. I can give you what I have done in the past. I have allowed 30 seconds. My last two have been in positions of great power. Amanda upon entering the door made the mistake of saying Hi wow what a day before she was naked . I promptly removed her clothes with such force she stumble backwards. she also went home in a blouse and skirt that had to be held closed till she got to the car and Minion got to see my den very quickly when she was late because of a meeting at work. Another question that has come up was I too cruel or was I in the role that they have asked me to be? No I am not a monster my slaves always have free time to discuss anything they want to without penalty but it is at my discression as to when that time is. And for being late well we all have had meeting go late but when it is running late there is always a chance to call and let those waiting to stop worrying . Planning comes in to if those type of meetings usually run long then plan accordingly.

One last question: I would like any sub reading this to comment as to whether they want their lover to greet them at the door with a drink in hand and listen to the day's experiences or do they want their Dom there waiting for them ready to take them from the reality of the vanilla experience and throw them in to a comforting dungeon? Ooops one last question how much delay would you like for the change over?

Okay that is it.

Befuddlement

IT is always easier going with the flow and doing what every one else wants you to is it not. Subs I have noticed have this angelic expression on their faces when they like the rules and decisions of their Masters. Throw them a curve and boy there is defiance and questioning. It is like a pain slut saying in a middle of session no that is not the way you are suppose to spank me. Subbies that love protocols forgetting to do things that they do not like. Each will do this to there on level of comfort with their Doms but they still do it.

It is funny to see subs dripping with submission to suddenly say well I did not think you would do that. So when I hear of subs being perfect submissives I just cringe a bit . All subs have a brat in them , I believe that subs have a predefined fantasy of what their submission is to be . The brat will beguile , mis-inform plot and push limits that they feel take them away from their fantasy of submission. Most hate changes or variants in their road to their ultimate ideals of submission. Constant negociations and suggestions.

I do prefer slaves , one intense negociation at the begining then it is the delightful words yes Master and with maybe some trepidation off they go to fulfill the desires of their Master. Yes I do prefer them. Just after a while I think some complacency does set in and Masters suddenly elevate them and in doing so, take them away from their ideal slavery. Then the brat sneeks out.

I have always prided my self on being a listener, to hear, understand and then provide what the sub/slave wants. Well my befuddlement is when we as Doms or Masters act as we are supposed to and decided for subs and slaves or push them to the submission that they describe to us do we feel that the sub /slave is second guessing us what happened to the trust? Yes I know there are monsters out there and giving such trust could prove deadly but there must be a time when the sub /slave lets go of the control they so desperately seek to give away and accept that they trust us. Funny two individuals wishing to provide for the need of the other only to be dashed by the interpretation of words. Oh well spare the rod and spoil the submissive, one must do what one feels is right one last question is should the titles change? Perhaps we should have degrees such as sometime Dom or quasi Dom or sub Dom maybe levels of Dominance could be by coloured belt , no the martial arts have already done that I know perhaps we should go back to wearing hankies or rings on pinky fingers.

Ah for the days of intolerance and service time to daydream.

Questions

I was asked the other day what is bdsm? Yes I had a good laugh and then said it is a lifestyle based o control, rules, protocols and old fashion punishment. I smirked once more for there is no set rule, protocol nor are the punishments old fashion.

A rule is set in society to govern a majority of people. It is meant to allow groups of individuals co-exist without someone murdering some one else. It does not always work but it is the best thing we have. What is the rule in the lifestyle ? Should you talk to twenty people as a Domme friend of my said on Sunday you will get twenty different rules

Protocols or a set way of doing things , there are protocols for experimenting with radiation they are strickly followed and there is only one set . In the lifestyle well again there is no book of rules and protocols and what is to be done when and how just does not exist. Far more than a way of life it is many ways of life.

Old fashion punishments were the whip, the cane , flogging and my favorite humiliation . Some forms of bondage. The rest were tortures. All were non consensual. So I think the only thing that comes close to an overall connection would be the consensual part. I have friends that I look at them and say that is not my style I would not allow that by my slave or sub. Others I consider to be very extreme and probably not do.

So what is my point? Well considering that we are one side of control or the other We are a bunch of anarchists.

Second session

This is a fun session for me as I see how much the sub has struggle to achieve what was asked of them. How close a shave whether or not they are wearing underwear did they practice their positions did they send all the emails and writings they were supposed to. When naked this time they know that they must live up to the standards set there is a nervous sweat on them as the inspection goes along of course they are punished for any infraction.

This session I dedicate to their anus exploring it with fingers and toys the more uncomfortable it is for them the more pleasure I derive from the examination. Top that off with pictures of various things held tightly in their anus such as feather dusters and carrots with the tops on , after all they must get healthy things too. The last pictures are of them holding their ass cheeks apart showing the abuse their anus has received. Then I give a play session to them again concentration is give to their sex organs and I never forget about their anus . Sent off with my house rules and more positions and tasks. After this session they are no longer allowed to wear underwear in my presence and yes if they meet me in the street by chance they better not be wearing underwear and yes I have ask for the offending items to be removed then and there.

On mountain high

I am feeling alot like an old hermit. One that sits on a mountain high and waits for those willing enough to climb the slope and ask of his experience and knowledge. They ask not for participation only for answers. Sadly I am becoming comfortable with this idea and sit comfortable waiting for the seekers.

I have suggested to ling that her journey would best be served by her new friends and have ask MM to take a more active role in her training. I know this will hurt ling as well as me for the next while. I find that now with the demands of my family and my health that I sadly cannot devote the time needed by ling to further her journey. LDs are far more draining then a face to face relation. I had to think and plan and try to find out if the desired affect was reached. Truly a shame she was so far away she was such a good submissive . In a face to face at least you know how the sub is reacting and what they are doing with out having to ask.

I am certain that MM will enjoy her service as well as ling will learn what it is to be with a Master with honour.

Now for those that might worry I am not dead yet nor do I intend leaving anytime soon I will play now and then, but long term training I will be putting on the side burner for a little while . I will sit on my mountain and rest and watch to see who will climb the slope .

Slave training for the newest of newbies

I have been asked by a newbie for my method so I thought it would be easier to share it here. This cartoon that I found sums up their initial expression but I have written out a first session below and will put up past experiences on training for those that wish them in the future.

After email exchanges and chats and conversations there comes a day the first day a most important day in a subs life. It is at this point where the subs decides. Once that decision has been made this is what happens:

AN inspection first they must strip away their clothes and assume the inspection position I use this position when ever I have been away from the sub for any length of time. Their legs must be spread bent at the waist at about a thirty five degree angle . This spreads the cheeks a little more and allows the breasts to hand a bit giving access to the nether regions head is held straight mouth open and hands just above their head as if they were just about to clasp their head but are not allowed to .

They usually must strain a bit to hold this position especially when they hear the snap of the rubber glove . I explore all areas of entry gently at first then pushing to see what they can take. I will comment at that time as to what they have to do such as shaving and personal care. I allow then to stand up. This takes about 30 minutes from time of entry to when they can first relax.
I then give them a list of easy positions to learn then I of course give them a little session making sure to concentrate on their organs I want to make sure they are excited for most of the time they are there for the first couple of times. Before they are dismissed they must masturbate infront of me ,yes if they are too shy I will stimulate them till they orgasm how ever they will be spanked for the dis-obedience. Oh course if they make the mistake of asking to use the toilet they will be allowed with me standing next to them watching. After about two hours of gentle play the session ends . They are sent to do their homework and given a date when the next session is. Never very long from the first just enough time for them to think about their feelings

Focus lost and found

Focus a word I have used many times when a slave is at hand. When needed a quick slap a tug on the ear and they resume focus. When a Dom looses focus there is no quick return no sudden gesture that will snap them back. Doms have lost subs and still remain in their funk.

What can be done ? Hot wax no we have had drips and spills as we sweetly torture a sub. Electric shock no accidents happen there too and most Doms try out what they will do to their subs on themselves to some degree. Well I can speak only for myself I have two ways. A novice snaps me out very quickly. The ones that have fantasies but no experienced. They ask a thousand questions and might have been on this planet for years yet are infants to this journey.

The other way is an experience slave. Oh yes one that lives to please and obey. One where you only have to tweak the training rather than start from scratch. I do love extremes.

October

Fall for me is a time of contemplation and routines. The month of October means morning fires to take the chill out and hopefully make it to November before putting on the furnace. Putting away the final remnants of summer putting flowers to sleep and removal of the tomato plants. It is also the time for pilgrimages. Yes the visiting of those that are related but not to me. So for a week I will travel through Ontario and Michigan giving well wishes and hugs to people that I haul out like Christmas decorations. They have some meaning but it might have been lost in the years that have pasted.

They do not hold my thoughts on life, nor my desires and most definitely not my confidence. They were the brothers and sisters of my wife not more than that . Why do I do this why not give over this time to myself or to my family. A parents wish that their family will be different that your children will be more then family they will be friends. They will not wait till Thanksgiving or Christmas to pop in to see their brothers and sisters. They will not have to wait for Hallmark to establish a new marketing tool to get us all together. Nice sentiments but not happening. Families are meant to spawn and send the offspring off to populate the world. So why is that so hard of a concept for some why do some cling to what was and try desperately to retard the process and at times like these try to bring back a time when admiration was given to your older sibling because he could tie his shoe.

Many of those sibling that had the greatest of respect then inhabit our prison system now. Control on children must be lost at some point for them to grow sometimes it hurts but pain sometimes is a good thing.

Then there is the pre-occupation with the idea that selections made must stay. The hippie you married and thought of spending the rest of you life with in a small cottage in the north now watches the shopping channel and wants to change the car because it looks old well I am old too but like the car I still sort of work.

The difference between family and friends is one you have to and the other you want to, so to appease the shopping channel surfer I off to see the relatives and have turkey or maybe to see turkies and have relatives , who knows.

Happy Thanks giving to all and sorry to the native americans and turkeys as this weekend has made quite a dent in their lives.

tasks

Such a small word for large endeavors. I do not know why tasks become so daunting for subs. A simple thing write down your experience during your position training. I do not think this to be difficult just a description of what happened and what was felt. I have checked yet no post yet . Well it is not a good re-start for a certain sub is it. Should I be upset . I would guess so but I have something new fo rmy little subbie to experience.

I think ling will not be forgetting her tasks so easily in the future.

A disturbing image

I will expect to see a lot of blogs today about Dawson. They will picture a dark image of a young man holding a gun and news of a horrific day in the life of young people in Montreal. I am a parent of one of those young people who saw fear in the faces of children running for their lives on TV and could do nothing for them.

Luckily my son who usually goes to Dawson on Wensdays to hang out in the Sci-Club and cajole with friends, decide to work overtime yesterday and was oblivious to horror that was taking part. My worries ended at 4:30 with a call from him asking for a lift home as it was raining. I feel for those that must visit their children today in Hospital and of those that must make plans no parent ever want s to face.

I must say that for me the demands of society not it's freedom is the root cause. The norm is not having a parent at home. Parents, to survive must now both work it is not easy to keep up with a child when you are busy solving the problems of bushiness much easier to throw money at the problem buy a new game get a new computer, give too much freedom with little guidance except to reprimand. Hugs and kisses seem to end When our young males get to a certain age. Suddenly they are suppose to come of age and be able to handle all society throws at them. Without the strong base of a parent always around. Kind understanding and parents that took the time to play and see what their child is doing perhaps might not have stopped what happened but certainly the sign might have been detected. I believe sometimes that tuff love is needed equally so are hugs and time with your children, more than a new PC or the latest large TV. All humans crave affection, the warmth of a mothers hug the approval of a Fathers gaze not bits and bytes or how large the idiot box is.

I feel for his parents of the young man that cold not control his fantasies but I feel that they did not help the situation. There is no school for parents and our parents were not perfect but most of time one of them were there. The one thing I feel that all children need is time with their parents and someone to guide them to the right choices. There is a joke that has come into circles now a days I shall not repeat it here just say it is about what would be the greatest punishment for a parent is to be locked away with their teenagers for an hour. Pretty sad statement for the intellectual society that we are suppose to be. What is the disturbing image that I spoke about , teenagers with credit cards and wads of money in malls without their parents.
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Permenant marks

I was asked a while ago by a sub that if we continued along long enough would I put permenant marks on her. I would not answer her , I felt I would be pestered to do so by her at every chance she could bring it up . Was she trying to gain re-assurance that she was mine , or liked body modificatioon or did she tryuly want to show the world she was owned. I am still thinking on that .
A few months ago another asked that question but she asked me what type of marks I would use and would it be a one time thing or a graduated journey. This sub showed thought in her questions so I answered like this.

At first a collar would be provided one she would be required to wear no matter where she went never taking it off without my permission, when I saw she could do this without exception then I would move to chains. I would pierce her nipples and run a chain through the rings. again she would have to show that she would wear it at all times including anytime she had to remove her clothing in front of another. Then her vaginal lips would have rings placed i them and the chains would continue from nipples to lips.
this would be the first part of the marking and would take place over the first five years of our relation. Any regression such as showimng me she had slipped in her training would result in the removal of the last step such as removal of the rings in her lips and if the poor behavior continues she would loose the nipple rings . They would not be replace until she proved herself and yes the flesh would have to had healed before she woud be allowed to have the piercings done again.

Once this level was maintained I would progress to a tatoo first one that would be seen by most as it would be across the top of her butt cheeks so if the her top moved or her pants were low on her back it would be exposed, it woul d progress from there to parts of her back and arms.. Then a navel ring to allow the chains to be gathered.

Last would be a branding that would occur only many years into the journey when I felt she had become the ideal submissive a slave. The branding would be of a private matter shared only with close friends.

I would not say to anyone , my submissive or others that this is not what must be I would be happy to have a slave with no marks no chains no brandings as I feel a good sub/slave proves that she is owned every day she kneels at my feet and gives of herself to me because she wishes to and not because she feels she has to. I would only place these marks should the slave wish them and I would use each level as a reward to her for her achievements. Just my thoughts on the matter

needed

It is the one feeling that will always perk me up. Someone saying I need you. As a parent I had to decipher long stories from my kids that realy meant they needed me for one thing or another,that always brought warmth to me. It inspire me to make danger rooms, volcanos and to hug. Those days have sort of gone by the wayside now I still get hey Dad can you or how do you do this but it is not the same. I am no long all knowing to them as I once was That warmth has not been felt in a while.

My health has cause a great down turn of late in what I think I can do . to a point I have become negative to change or just trying things that I once did with out thinking about. My friend have and will always be there for me but thy do not have the need of me they will continue with or with out me.

ling is on a sabatilcal again and I feel has gotten to the point where her needs are changing also . she needs a Dom that can give her the physical side of control. her training that I can do is almost complete.

About ready to clean out the toys and find them homes to place the rocking chair on the porch . Where I could sit and mindlessly rehash the past and what i had done in my life with anyone foolish enough to ask how ae you to day. Perhaps one last battle with the grim reaper sword against sicle , or my favor to slap a polar bear o the nose.

I was told yes terday I need you by a sub, not hey want have some fun, kinky sex slam bam thank who ever that masked stranger was. No a genuine I need you specificely me from a submissive that feels only I can fill her needs . Only I does she trust with her foray into the lifestyle. Damm feels good to be needed again yes I feel a lot of warmth today. It is for one session , might be two but that is not important it is I am needed that has given me energy and drive once again.

Idle hands

As many of the nuns would say to me in my youth idle hands cause minds to get into trouble. A good saying of course not exactly true I was being reprimanded for having my hands up a young woman's skirt so my hands were far from idle.

This has brought back memories of childhood and the games we played , strip poker, chase and strip of course dare.SO much fun but if I go back further what about jacks. That lovely game where you bounced a ball and tried to pick up as many pointy objects as you could. Hmmm an idea I remember reading about a game for subs such as picking up greased marbles between their cheeks and moving it to a bucket several feet away. Of course there is the marble push. On their knees hands tied behind their back and pushing a marble across a floor to specified destination but nothing with jacks.

You would think that jacks lend themselves to the lifestyle, pointy difficult to handle just sounds like a sub game to me. Like ass grab where the sub with out use of thier hands must grab as many as possible from the floor. Or perhaps a rendition of the tooth pick challenge. Now they used to be made of metal if you found those perhaps they could be heated or frozen just so that the sub does not get board. Hmmm what do you think? Oh what should we do with the ball?

First part is almost over

ling is away so she cannot blog . she is almost finished the first part of her punishment . Which was : 10 pussy smacks , masturbate with out cumming at least 3 times a day finishing off with 5 clit smacks. I believe this will have a mortifying effect on ling. More so that she is away and does not have the comfort of her own space. This part o the punishment was to show her that she cannot always have the lifestyle as she desirers. There are rules and they are to be followed even when they do not give her the excitement and thrill.

The second part of the punishment will be to continue the pussy smacks in the morning and the clit smacks at night however the change will be she must cum 5 times inbetween the smacks. This should give ling the understanding that too much of a getting what you want is not a good thing.

Oh what is a pussy smack well first the pussy is shaved every day as close as possible this sometimes produces razor burn but c'est la vie. Then when the pussy is still damp you take a spatula and apply it briskly to the area as rapidly as possible. Afterwards a liberal dose of acohol to dis-infect the area. The clit smack is simple holding her legs open and her pussy lips she must direct the smacks to the clit. I know this is difficult and she will miss. she must hit the clit 5 times misses do not count

I am sure that somethings are becoming quite tender now. Hopefully this will inspire ling to take tasks seriously and certainly to stay in the proper frame of mind

undertanding and communications

Well I am back, a few pounds lighter, a little slower but I am back. Now lets tear into an issue that has presented itself while I was in hospital.

ling a very good sub so far but fell apart during my absence. she fell apart because she was angry with me for well to say it plainly I was not there everyday for her. I found this amusing as I have set tasks for her given her routines to follow and my friends emails to gain reassurance from in case of an unscheduled absence . Yet her tasks were not complete, her routines sort of done and sort of not.

When was it okay for a sub to be angry at her Dom when her duties were not performed? Yes I have been harsh in the past when she has had unscheduled absences because of worry but I was not angry with her. I was upset but when it was explained I accepted it.

So miss ling yes you are in trouble and yes I will take great delight in the punishment that I have assigned you and the best my dear is yet to come. In the future I suggest you use your tasks and routines as replacement for my presenses when need be.

So nice to be back

Witchcraft

In day of olde when you were sick, you sought out a sooth sayer or witch doctor or warlock. Some magical person that could cure you. If you could stomach the potion then you might just fall asleep or you might start vomiting and fall into coma and then into the great unknown. Some survived some did not. If you did well they wanted to make sure you were strong enough so they would bleed you in various ways, leeches, knives and needles.


How nice that now adays medicine has changed so much. Now they introduce antibiotics that burn your veins and any tissue it touches, you slip in and out of a canatonic sleep induced by the use of pain killers so you do not feel the antibiotics . When they can no longer find veins they send you home with pills that causes you to sleep eat get sick and sleep.

They did say That I am without infection now but I am waiting for the leeches.

Not quite ready to lay down yet

I am at home I am not perfect but I am home. Thank you to well wishers and the visitors all were appreciated. Health wise I have a while to go but I also have a strong will. You will not see much of my writing for at least a week or two but I will be reading. Yes there is plenty of fight left in Me.

The munch

I have taken a lot of time off from blogging and Domming to relax and recoup, I could not give up my munch though. I was not going to attend yesterday sI was going to sit in the pool and just chill. Two of the organizers of the munch were worried that they would not be there on time and asked if I could help out. These two have stretched their hands out to me in so many different ways and times I could not refuse so off I went

I teased old friends and meet jo aka searabbit that if I had known it was her I would have sat with them for a while longer. I spoke with a couple Dom/Domme new to the group. We talked about what makes a sub sub and all quite interesting , I hope they retuun to the next munch. Then there was Bradon applying massages to various females that look like putty in his hands. Ah Paula wow a lively personallity that beamed with excitement just for being there. Mistress Lisa was as always charming with a hint of devilment in her eyes which is betrayed by that lovely evil laught.
Play parties , camps and workshops are great but ther e is nothing like a munch to allow people to find thier way . exchange ideas and just laugh. It is medicinal at thimes at least for me.

Yes it is time to start writing again and seeking out subs and slaves but the critera will be harder for both them and me. I will take my time and they will have to be what I want . I alos have been lacks with ling far too much I would say. She needs a stronger hand with more caring. A lovely crerature that is just out to please and perhaps she is tryin to please too many people and forgets about her self a lot so that will have to be rectified. I alos have to prioritize my life as I have a new Domme to please for information on that just go to the drakor blog. I will say taht she is new will make mistakes and will grow.Hopefully she will learn from me and I from her. Many times in my life after reaching a certain level I have returned to re-study the basics to make sure the fondation is good , you know how you can develop bad habits.

SO I am refreshed and revitalized mostly by the munch and yes the pool does not hurt either. I think I have my humour back at least the bratish part of it I had my piece of pie yesterday so time to get off the fence as some one said yesterday and decide. Just one questions for littleone if you like pain and you are sitting on a fence why would you get off? Oh one last question how do you know if you have splinters?

where have I been

Well a good question. over the past months a lot has happened/ Submissives came and went actually over the past year they did and questions arose. Not from exterior forces but from me. I had thought I was clear is what and how I said things perhaps I did not they seem to have been mis-inturpeted. I question my training methods and my wants and wishes they may be oo much . Is it that I want truly cannot be fulfilled. I might be a player tah I need rather than a slave. I am still pondering and have sought out a friend to help . I will see if what I demand is possible so my writings might be sporactic at times I do not wish to pass along anything that until I am comfortable with it. ling will stil be here and still under my control on a daily bases for what I have done with her seems to have worked. I will bog about her and other things just not as often and no ling it has nothing to do with my health. It does have to do with emotions, interpetations, understandings and needs . Both of the sub and the Master.

I feel being a good Domm is a lot of work and there should be pay back for the Dom even though it is the needs, wants and desires of the sub that drives the relation. In recent times going back as far as 3 years ago I had done a lot of preliminary training only to see the sub leave and not complete it so that we may move to the next levelt his greatly frustrates a master. that is why the little sabaticle . So I can re-group and re focus thoughts on my needs and training methods and selection process. Time for me to ponder and perhaps re-learn and re-think how to do thinkgs.

What does the word mean

ling has asked many questions non harder then those about love. Though I answered they have caused me to think upon and ponder. The questions about love. It is extremely hard for me to feel or show emotions I tend to think of it as a weakness a tool that can be used to manipulate me. So I hide it as you have seen in my answers. Only those very close tome for a log time would know of my feelings or emotions. So that said perhaps my definitions of the word love might help you.

Again we run into communication problems for we all have different meanings and value for words. There is an old Mashmakan song that explains varying degrees of it . I do not believe in so many but I would say that I have three.

The first is easy the love for your children . Yes monsters like me have children. You will be surprised to hear that my children brought up as free spirits with rules.. They were shown different choices they could make and they were encouraged to make decisions early in life. With that preamble said love of a parent is almost unconditional. You want then to succeed and you overlook things that are not perfect about them. You say you give tuff love yet you check to see if your 20 year old made it home and safely sleeps in his bed. You would never tell him this because you are a Dad. And dads do not do those things. Well we do we just do not tell anyone we did, unlike moms and that is totally another blog.

There is soul mate love. That is bordering on the achievement of your fantasy relation. The perfect slave or submissive for a Master or perfect master for a slave. All those lovely excitable feelings all those deep emotions that come out bliss would be a good word for it . Infatuation does not even come close it is far more than that . It is like living on a desert island and not wanting to be rescued. You know when you are rescued it will disappear and reality will again take over. All that remains is the dreams of what could have been .

Then there is an old type of love. The one you learn. It has been around since the first arranged marriage. It is still here in most of our relations of today. It is based on honour and commitment . This loves is like the tide it ebbs and flows. IT comes from being with a person when they are young and wild and old and cantankerous. IT has to do with compromising ones needs. IT is made of giving ones self to others . Doing what we hate just so we get a smile. It comes from watching our wife suffer through child birth . It comes from suffering the demands of bills, taxes and keeping up with the Jones whoever they may be (they do have quite a high standard of living). It comes from the arguing and the making up; of the deepseeded hurt that never goes away. IT is cause by a women looking through a window at her husbands almost lifeless body hoping for a sign of life for 3 days, it comes from her willingness to give up everything to see a finger move. It comes from a women seeing what her husband so bravely hides from others, his weakness, lost of abilities and his pain.

That is learned love something that not all relations attain when they do it is a relationship of freedoms and of deep compassion and yes love. IT is based on caring ,thinking , hard work and sharing deep emotions that can only come out in time. Arguements still occur, hurt still happens and things are not, nor will they be, perfect. Yet there is joy , comfort and a wish to protect her from harm of any kind. Yes I give up many things so that I can stand and protect her from the dragons of life but so does she to have that protection.

I am a lucky man (yes I have always loved that song) as I have experience all three. All are like works of art in there own right. Some just occurred as with children. Some are inspired and need little work as with a soulmate. Some require thought and work are ongoing and will not end. They are drugeries at time and bliss at others . There are horrific battles and great romance. In a movie( The Agony and the ecstasy) about the painting of Cystene Chapel The pope looks up at Michael Angelo, during the painting and asks "when it is will it end? Michael Angelo answers "when it is finished". I am no better or worse then others and all could call their lives Agony and Ecstasy, after 25 five years of marriage does have a ring to it though.

Well ling I hope this helps you to know me a bit more. Which is the best love? Well they all have a place in life. Time is the measure of all things including love.

Big Brother or is it bother

We have created a society of whinners and blame asessers. Why when I was young did I go play beside a river with out audlt supervision? How did I know that if I was not invited into some ones pool I did ot go? Where are the parents of this generation? Why are they sitting on their asses while their children do not have the sense of what is danger? Do not give me this crap about both having to work because I know of too many single parents who do great jobs with thier children while working to make ends meet so sorry you parents taht are both working that has asses as children you are to blame for the stupidity of your children no one else.

In conversation with a near by principle I found out he is putting forth a suggestion that all cars must come to a full stop when they see a child that might be crossing or thinking of crossing a street. What are we teaching them in school? First I have to put up a fence that I did not want because some child under thier parents supervision might wander off and drown and who's fault would that be? I have to worry that a child does not understand where it is safe to cross or when / I was taught that you make sure the car stops then you cross. Red light Green light did not matter if I put one foot on the street without looking I was yanked back and scolded.

Last year a young women or girl was killed by a speeding driver on a street near by, flowers were placed memorials read and written all very touching. Everyone blamed the driver even though the driver had right of way Did she look, at most at the green light if that. On the very same area I have moving at normal speed had to apply my breaksbecause they step from the curb with thier ear phons in or talking on their cells without a glance to me or the light they just expect me to stop no mattter what.

Now I have a suggestion for the government that any child caught not minding the laws of road have the parent taken down to the station given a good horse whipping and put into jail for a weekend and the child sent to a uunvenile hall with no nintendo, pc, mps or dvds. Then send the whole damm family for training in being a responsible citizens The second offence would be a repeat of the first punishment though I would horse whip the parents on th Frinday and the following monday morning to make sure they retain the pain for a while. I would also dye the whole family to warn us all that they are stupid perhaps a deep purple or maybe stripes. After that a third offence well that is easy lock up the family together in a small room without any form of media for a year.I am sure that if they are forced to communicate with each other for more than five minutes they will kill each other. Correcting the failure of natural selection and soving the many problems of the future of the race.

Rant is over but not forgotten I am tired of being big brother to fools

Well that is over with or is it.

The idea was for ling to find out more aboutme because she needs to be emotionally close to her Master. So I answered all the questions now a real task for my ling . Before we started the questions I told you to write what you know of me. Of course ling whined and complained about it but it was done.

Now my pet you must write what you know of me now what have you learnt from your questions. In the blog you will explain why you might have changed your ideas about me how you feel emotionally and all the diferences you have found in your thoughts on me.

It is Tuesday , I am entering hospital on Thurs morning at 8:30 I would prefer to see your blog by Wed night . Later than that and I do not know how soon I will be able to read it. When your blog is done you are allowed to ask one question. This should be stimulated by the questions you have asked or a burning question that did not fit in but that you deperately need to know. Remember I said ask the question I did not say I will answer it but it will stimulate thought and discussion and then perhaps you will answer it.

TEN Finally!!!

You said, "I do not believe that love sworks you have commitment you have sharing and i can see that you have loyalty and I see that but love all I see is are words written about it but nothing that cannot be described in other words that describe actions, usually under the heading of love, much better."
Okay this answer didn't make much sense to me.....BUT what i think i got from it was that You can't 'see' love, so it doesn't exist or You don't give it much power in Your life.
I believe that humans try desperately to be in love to express love to do everything for love yet truly they have not ever been in love few have. There are great stories and poems about it. Love is something you experience once in a lifetime if you are lucky but only once and not all will. Most relations are based on contentment or infatuation not love. They all start due to needs of individuals that are fulfill by what others want to give. AN emotional payment you could say. There is an old song that says you cannot pay for love. On to the questions now.

Isn't there many ways people express love in an action?

They express a need or want through action if you wish to put these actions under an umbrella word such as love so be it.

Do You feel You have ever really been in love?
Yes

"To say that I am beating someone ass because I love them no it is because I enjoy it." Haven't You ever given a sub something they wanted more than You did?
Yes I have

Why or Why not?
Because U enjoyed the power I had by giving it

Do You feel love hasn't entered Your BDSM life because of vanilla commitments?

No it has entered
What means more from You...Love or Commitment?
Commitment
What means more to You...love or commitment?
commitment if I must use the word

"Again not love but honor relates to it " Isn't there love in honor?
There does not have to be
i mean to truly honor someone don't you need to love them?
No

Did You learn anything about Yourself during this challenge?
Not really my dear except you base a lot of things on this word love I hope it is as strong as a word as you feel it to be for you.

nine

You told me how this came to be but You didn't answer my question. "A cold uncaring individual someone without emotions" How does that make You feel....inside?
My I thought I did it does not affect me what others think of me

"You might well love something else as it fits your needs better." What happens to what You once loved?
That depends on circumstance I do not confuse the word love with commitment
Do You believe it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?
I do not think that any experience is bad so experience as much as you can.

Where is Your romance?
In fantasies and books

"You might well love something else as it fits your needs better." Do You truly think love works that way?
I do not beleive that love sworks you have commitment you have sharing and i can see that you have loyalty and I see that but love all I see is are words written about it but nothing that cannot be described in other words that describe actions, usually under the heading of love, much better.

Is it really love if You can just turn it on and off?

I think my answer above covers this question

This is cynicism, "why should I if you know the ending of a book and the story line why would you read it ." Do You think it keeps You from opening Yourself to love?

No

For fun...."If You could change that judgment what would it be too?" It is a hypothetical and for fun!!!!
Sorry I do not understand the question

How does love relate to Your BDSM world?

AH that word again. Possesion relates to it ownership, pleasure seeking and pleasure giving relates to it I can think of many words that relate to it. To say that I am beating someone ass because I love them no it is because I enjoy it. Just as I enjoy it when I get a compliment on my subs behavior that make me feel good because I have taught them well. So truly it does not related to it at all. Again not love but honour relates to it

Alarm clocks

Funny how things work now a days. You still have to go through the motion of turning on alarm clocks lets say . Yes! In this day and age the idea of it. Where are our inventors why have they not solved this complicated problem we can go to the moon but not have an alarm clock that sets itself.

Sounds like a task for a sub does it not? well not for ling nope she forgot making her late not sending the morning email not blogging being an hour behind and late for a lunch with another Master . Hmmmm how good does that make me look. I wonder if I should put in a wake up call so that miss ling will set her alarm every night.

Now what type of wake up call should it be. First ling will insert the intruder. Then blog on the steps she needs to take to set her alarm when this is done she will email an apology to the Master she made wait cc to me of course. Is that it noooo then we will practice setting the alarm ling will set it for five minutes and wait till it rings then she will do it again and again until she grasps the idea that subs are not allowed to make Masters wait. ling will do this for half an hour. Then she can take out the intruder. AH but it is not over. ling will masterbate 5 times a day for five minutes each time for 5 days. When during the day is up to miss ling but of course she will have to use her alarm to make sure it is 5 minutes and NO orgasms.

I am sure this will be a wake up call ling will remember ling this might seem sevre but you represent me when you sit with another Master being late is not acceptable. Make sure the Master you made wait has a copy of this punishment.

Do enjoy the week
PS did yo notice the three number 5 s. Wll yes I am close but not quite a devil am I not.

8

You do judge people but You aren't swayed by Your judgements....How is that possible?
Every one judges people everyone is swayed by the actions of others I merely reserve judgement past the initial impression.

"A cold uncaring individual someone without emotions" How does that make You feel....inside?
This judgement as you call it was related to me by a manager that worked for me he said that if I every took over the store he worked in as I came in the front door he would leave by the back. Another said and this is a translation of a Quebecois saying " if he opens his mouth does a light go on" meaning that I did not smile I was like a fridge. As my job was mostly turning companies around I usually had to chop some heads So this allowed me to do my job with out the hassle of emotion.
If You could change that judegement what would it be too?

I would not as it is a useful tool to see reaction of others

"Too much changes over the years to be able to say that one has always loved the other or will." What You once loved You may not love later?

You might well love something else as it fits your needs better.

"Only mothers are capable of not seeing the faults and irks of their children their concept of reality when it comes to their children is often clouded by this emotion." But not a Fathers?
I can speak only for myself but yes it is different Mothers want to hold on as long as possible I tend to want them to be free so that they can have a life there onw life. That cannot be done coddled in mother's arms. They must take their chances like all fledglings must do when they atttempt flight on their own.
Do You think logic and reason should even play a part of love?

Love is not the protecter we all think it is. It does not stop the storms of life nor does it make decisions easier. It clouds judgement so love is part of life so is logic and reason part of life. Love plays a part of reason and logic not the other way.
Do You think Your cynicsm keeps You from enjoying some parts of life?

No honour does.
Are You afraid to open Yourself to real love?
Real what is real love making fairytale decisions or facing the harsh realities of life. I donot open myself as you say why should I if you know the ending of a book and the story line why would you read it .

The 7

Do You really feel You don't judge people?

I do judge people I just take a while to decide on most.

How do You feel about people who judge others?

Too many take their first impression or are swayed by others formulating their opinions based on others whims.
If someone where to judge You at a first meeting what judgments do You think people would place on You?

A cold uncaring individual someone without emotions

"After youth and our riches are gone what else do we have." What about Love?
An emotion best left between mother and child. Too much changes over the years to be able to say that one has always loved the other or will. Only mothers are capable of not seeing the faults and irks of their children their concept of reality when it comes to their children is often clouded by this emotion.

How do You describe the perfect love?

It was once desribed to me as death the end of thought and reason. It is a word needed to express a caring without the cold logic involved. Fulfillment of needs would be the best descrition for it though I think what you look for is flowery description of animal lust and a continuation of the species. So how about this enjoyment of another not directly related to you both mentally and physically.

"just a feeling that it is right to do so" Do You believe in intuition?
Yes I do but it can easily be tainted by circumstance and surronding

How much would You place on an initial feeling or Your intuition?

Depends on the situation and timming. If I must make a decision quickly a lot more then if I can take time to reflect and ponder. At that point I would have to take in surrondings to see what affect or influence they had on me at the time

Perhaps I am late

Sir a Dom friend of mine suggested that ling's lack of blogging was a punishment offence. I don't think so as she has just returned from vacation. How ever ling does need to get back into submissive mode again so a task I think would be good.

I will say that I have no pictures yet of her positions hmmmm well a nasty task then. Since the vacation went so well time to contemplate things again so lets re-introduce the intruder for meditation purposes only. SO insert the intruder then think of why you should get the web cam going and how you can get those pictures and when. Wait make sure you have the right answers for these questions ling so keep the intruder in for half an hour. Then you can blog your answers to the task above. Once the blogging is over then you may remove you friend the intruder.
Now I know it has been a while but do remember that the intruder goes in your ass ling no where else. Just to keep you focused ling no orgasm until the questions have been asked and the tasks above done.

enjoy the day

great laugh at someone expense

I was talking with a switch friend of mine . Right now the person is in Dominant side with a newbie sub. Newbie to the point where all is new to her. The sub saw a movie a few years agao about a Domme and her female sub and expects the hollywood version of a lifestyle relationship. She is demanding a lot of lets say time from my switch friend. My friend just wants to Dom her not be her best friend not get emotional involved with her.


Hmmm that sounds familar. I have had a few subs like that recently and I spoke to a Domme friend of mine and she said men are from mars and women from venus. All women want emotion . Well I have given this a great deal of thought and I do not totally agree with the men from Mars and women from Venus stuff. After hearing from my switch friend and having Dommed her I think that Dominants are from Mars subs are from Venus and switches well since we are pratical perfect in every way must be the only humans in the lifestyle but we commute a lot that could be why we get cranky at newbies sometimes!

Here is smiling at you Switch.

The six

Do You give trust upfront or is it something that is earned?

ANs: I mostly give it upfront I do not like to judge someone be fore I know them. There is an initial period when I make up my mind if I wish to know this person at all but mostly up front.

What if someone lies to You to protect You?

Ans: No such thing the only thing that can protect me is honesty so I can make my own decisions I accept no lies for what reason

Why do You place So much on honor?

Ans:
After youth and our riches are gone what else do we have. I think that if honour was given the same status as our wants we would not have the hopeless dispair that causes wars, starvation and sickness.

Where do You draw the line on second chances?

ans:

That is a feeling I cannot tell you a limit or hard if statement just a feeling that it is right to do so

Your answer on luck surprises me. How much do You think luck plays a role in Your life?

Ans:

Luck or the word I prefer is chance plays a large role sometime and totally depends on the circumstance , time and place so this question I cannot answer with a percentage or frequency merely that it does and totally depends on the butterflies wings.

"both have value the must be used at the right time." When would be the right time for each...in Your eyes?

Ans: when confronted by a tiger at a hundred yards I would back away facing the danger until I knew I could reach safety then I would run for it. Otherwise I would look for weapons and prepare for the onslaufght keeping my eyes on the tiger . I would then stalk and plan my attack waiting for the best time for me . After all the Tiger might not want to face his fears that day.

There you go ling six down I hope you are learning more about me