relationships , choices and decisions

I had thought for a while to stop web sites and blogging, answering questions and starting discussions. why well minion and I tried a second time and all did not go well.we both have vanilla lives dependent upon us being there . We had children and developed relations before we met. Our vanilla lives have reduce our lifestyle into nothing as we realized we could not give the other the time or complete the needs of each.

Not because of incomparability no it was due to the vanilla commitments and some inner demons that we both share. Had this been 30 years ago I would say that minion and I would be growing old together right now be running boot camps for submissives enjoying the D/s relations we had established. This was just not meant to be or not yet any way . This was a relations not failed just that would not happen in the way we wanted, so it was better not to taste something we cannot enjoy to the level we wanted.

I would highly recommend that if you are in the lifestyle marry the lifestyle not vanilla the more vanilla in your life the greater chance of your enjoyment of the lifestyle being torn apart by the need s of the vanilla in your life. It would have been so much easier to be in the lifestyle coping with the demands of the vanilla world then living with the bonds of the vanilla world watching your dreams and desires leave you behind

I have no intentions of leaving the lifestyle nor the vanilla relations. I would like to find a slave with the perfect needs that fit mine and will continue to look for her I would say this to all that struggle now and in the future for me the good times I had in both worlds was and is worth it , just can be a bit draining have your cake and eating it too.

A most submissive position

I enjoy finding positions of ladies in distress this on I found to be excellent for a slave it hides everything yet she is naked. If she moves well then all will be exposed what a catch 22 naked but covered. Perhaps a squirt of water would relieve the quandary.

slave

slave (slāv)
n.

1. One bound in servitude as the property of a person or household.
2. One who is abjectly subservient to a specified person or influence: "I was still the slave of education and prejudice" (Edward Gibbon).
3. One who works extremely hard.
4. A machine or component controlled by another machine or component.

The word and its definition seems so simple it is so sweet. To me when it is used it means only one thing some one or some thing controls that which is called slave. It is under this very simple form that I have always searched . Subs are too complicated with what can be do and what they will do. Their limits change because of their desires and they tend to try to influence judgment , did I say tend. They do influence judgment. A favorite saying I heard many years ago was from a young lady who consider herself a slut and would please anyone for her Master until some one she did not have a taste for, turned to her master and said "this is a hard limit" then she found herself to be ill and had to leave the party. As the couple walked down the walkway you would hear her berating her husband/dom for even thinking she would service that guy. That was some one under control of another was it not.

Bottoms I can understand the most they are out to satisfy their needs through a fantasy that they have conceived they tend to write them so all goes along a certain way. When it is over well bring back the P's and Q's of the vanilla world and do not ask for a coffee in the morning.
I understand them don't really want them.

No slaves are easy they do what they are told they exist to please maybe not with their hearts but for the love of duty and that their fantasy of no control and no option fits their needs 100%. That is what I like!

Interesting the different names that there are for slave in the world. Have fun and pick out your favorite

slave1 [sleiv] noun

a person who works for a master to whom he belongs
Example: In the nineteenth century many Africans were sold as slaves in the United States.

Arabic: عَبْد Chinese (Simplified): 奴隶 Chinese (Traditional): 奴隸 Czech: otrok, -yně Danish: slave Dutch: slaaf Estonian: ori Finnish: orja French: esclave German: der Sklave, die Sklavin Greek: σκλάβος,δούλος Hungarian: rabszolga Icelandic: þræll Indonesian: budak Italian: schiavo	Japanese: 奴隷 Korean: 노예 Latvian: vergs Lithuanian: vergas Norwegian: slave, trell Polish: niewolnik Portuguese (Brazil): escravo Portuguese (Portugal): escravo Romanian: sclav Russian: раб, невольник Slovak: otrok, -kyňa Slovenian: suženj Spanish: esclavo Swedish: slav, träl Turkish: köle

slave2 [sleiv] noun
a person who works very hard for someone else
Example: He has a slave who types his letters and organizes his life for him.

Arabic: كادِح، شَخْص يَعْمَل عن غَيْرِه عملا شاقّا Chinese (Simplified): 苦工 Chinese (Traditional): 苦工 Czech: otrok Danish: slave Dutch: slaaf Estonian: ori Finnish: orja French: esclave German: der Sklave, die Sklavin Greek: υποτακτικός Hungarian: "rabszolga" Icelandic: vinnuþræll Indonesian: pekerja keras Italian: schiavo

Japanese: 献身的に働く人 Korean: (남을 위해) 뼈빠지게 일하는 사람 Latvian: vergs Lithuanian: vergas Norwegian: arbeidsslave Polish: najemnik, niewolnik Portuguese (Brazil): escravo Portuguese (Portugal): escravo Romanian: sclav Russian: раб Slovak: otrok Slovenian: suženj Spanish: esclavo Swedish: slav Turkish: köle gibi çalışan

reflection

I have been on an in forced vacation from the lifestyle and have had time to ponder a few things. The first is time as many know I am retired and should have all sorts of free time. I do to it would seem that I have just switched to being detail oriented to fill my time up and I do not mean in a good way. I mean nit picking such as forks turned a certain way when they are put away or towels folded in a certain manner. I like things to be tidy but not to this level and when living with adult offspring they tend to retain many of their bad habits. This was not me ask my close friends and they will tell you I go with the flow i am not anal except when playing with a slave.

As for sessions since my sub needs some time to herself I realize how much planning went into sessions. I used to bring my toys and have a vague idea of what I wanted to cover that session. Now all of a sudden I no longer have a point form of what I wanted to do by a point by point description of what had to be accomplished in the session. SO where did all the fun go well down the toilet I would say.

I believe I have been swept up in the expectations of what I think others feel I should do. That is not good fora Dom is it? What am I going to do well first get back to being me . A Little wild , a whole lot less structured. And of course a serious dose of attitude. I will get back to my standards and just leave them alone.

So close yet so far away

I wonder I have noticed on the websites that lend themselves to the lifestyle and getting together, the people that you want to meet or chat with always seem to be in another city or province. The ones who's definitions and words match yours the perfect slave or sub always seems to live so far away. The one in the same situation as you beliefs seems to speak another language. I wonder is the same for those of you that do not live in Montreal .

How many times have I been in a chat room and start having very interesting conversation when i find out they live in Australia or South Africa. Is this a Murphy's law of bdsm. I have been away for a while of chat rooms and for no better reason than not being able to sleep I went on and started to chat only to find out the geographical dilemma I had. Looking in my friends folder It seemed as if all that I spoke to lived in Australia or South Africa.

Could it be that the lifestyle only exists here and those other two places? I guess that from past experience these people reflect the same thinking I have on the subject, definitions , beliefs , ideas and what they expect from one another. I do not fathom how or why this is but I am wondering if I should not be working on my air miles more. After all finding a female Australian slave in Montreal not high on the chance list.

So two questions. Those not from Australia or South Africa do you ever go into chat rooms or is that for Australians and South Africans only? How much is a one way ticket?

A country that has kangaroos, crocodiles, platypus and spiders that can kill well if the submissives are as extreme as that they rival the wildlife then it sounds like a great place.

No time

Events of the past week have taken their toll on my free time . So many new postings from littleone, millagirl, melody and lucy I feel as if the world has jumped ahead and left me behind. I am helping a friend out with some house repairs unfortunately I do not work as long nor as fast as I once did.

A couple of newbies that I have been helping out in the lifestyle have advanced their efforts I have not had the chance to answer their emails minion is not a hundred percent yet after her car accident. On a positive note we have started on a website that hopefully will expound on our beliefs and way of lifestyle.

Thank you for your emails sorry to have worried some of you I will make sure to post more often.