An emotion that I do not handle well

Feeling useless is an thought I cannot handle well nor is the sadness caused by it. When I realize I can have no effect I recoil and become a sad angry child.I do want to talk about it I just had to write itdown some where to reliece my emotions.

Thank you.

There is a sadness that comes with Christmas unfortunately. As I age it seems to be more and more prevalent with my age. I think it is the excitement that I have and the lack my family has. Compounded by recent incidents it is overtaking my joy for this season. A very lovely dog was staying with us and I have grown quite attached to it. I love animals and always wanted a dog when growing up but could not money , space and a brother taht was allergic.Though I have foster dogs about 10 of them I ran into the same problems when I was older this time it was my kids that were allergic. Unfortunately this dog bit my son under strange circumstances . Not that the dog was right to bite but I can understand why it did.

Now the dog will be taken away to spend its remaining days with my son's girlfriends father. It will not have the company for all in the house it will not have some one with it all the time nor some one to pay attention. The father has already said the dog is too old and I know he will work on her to put my friend down, and I have no power to stop it. to it. And I will loose a friend. This is when I hate the rules of ownership is not right but must accept them.

Tonight I am off to shop for presents and my lost spirityet the one that would make me happy will be the source that creates the greates sadness at this time of the year. Some how I do not really feel much like a strong and powerful dom. I have made things right in peooles lives I have save children and helped Monarch butterflies but never seem to do the right thing for me. a very sad and solitarty word the word me just never seems to get it's just due

So the lights are up. the tree is decorated and some presents are wrapped. IT is just my spirit is broken and gone for now.

Ideas for Holiday parties with your slaves

Inventive ideas for Christmas

1. Ting a ling bells are always great nipples testicles ankles and wrist collars with belles. Certainly a slave bouncing around doing his tasks will only lend to a festive spirit with the tinkling.
2. The Christmas goose as per the Christmas Carol 12 days of Christmas. Each day being the number of fingers used would be fun on the twelfth day ten fingers and two fists yep that makes twelve does it not.
3. Oh Christmas tree well if you attach the hand to the ankles then bring his feet over so he is resting on his shoulders. Spread the ankles wide that sort of give a shape of a tree. Clamps with bells can be attached to his testicles down around his ankles then to his nipples. You can sting garland hang ornaments and of course the star has to go on or in his ass to be the highest.
4. Chestnuts roasting well this one are easy hot towels then a good close shave followed by putting the testicles in a bucket of snow. They should shrivel up and have a similar look as roast chestnuts. Now for the hot part lovely hot wax dripped on. Festive coloured candles would be nice to use.
5. Stuffing the turkey always a fun thing not hard to do just see how much of what you like can be inserted and held. Grapes nuts carrots Potatoes the choice is yours just grab the penis and testicles and with a little oil insert the desired ingredients. A nice surprise for the dear little slave includes some ginger root with the mix Tape the cheeks together and watch the fun. There will be a lot of gobbling and prancing around I am sure. Do not forget to baste or oil well another variation is to grease every thing including his hands after applying the tape and then tell him he can empty as soon as he can get the tape off that could be good for hours of entertainment depending on the tape job and the amount of oil.
6. Hark the slave does song attach the testicles to the ankles in a squatting position and apply a heat rob of sort to his testicles and in his anus and see how much of a soprano he is give him a Carol to sing when it is over then let his balls go if he does not sound in key well do it over and over till he gets it right.
7. Joy to the world my ass is red. Well simply said a paddling for twelve minutes Oh just to make sure it gets red make sure the ass is nice and cold a nice bucket of snow is always a good thing.
8. And now we don our gay apparel well pretty obvious well take any slave. Get red, white, green stay up stocking matching panties and bra with a some thing pretty for his neck get a skirt that covers but not that well and a slut top for him shoes would be wonderful the higher the heel the better causes them to walk slowly. You can put on make up and a wig just make sure that noon could mistake him for anything then a man in women’s clothing. Then toss him in the car and take him for a ride. Try to find a quiet corner store of gas station and have him pump the gas or go in and buy some thing that he has to ask for. Hopefully a woman is working and you have scope out some thing that is hidden away. If the woman is bored she just might make a few suggestions for you as what to do with him. This should bring about Christmas colour quiet quickly and put everyone in the spirit of giving.
9. Ding dong it is not so long. The pulling and stretching of the testicles and penis. Every Dominant in the room is given the chance to stretch and pull the slaves penis and balls a total of five minutes each before and in-between the anatomy is cooled down in snow when each Dom is finished the slave is measured what ever the larges measure that Dom wins a tongue bath of any part of their body. Should there be any accidents on the part of the slave well he must lick it up and continue if there are too many accidents add a bit of Tabasco sauce with is dripping that should put the fire in him to play properly at Christmas.
10. We three dominants, just those three dominants with strap-ons dildos or their own equipment and a slave with two orifices well guess that means a male slave. Play the carol we three Kings and when a new king starts to sing switch positions of the Dominants. Play the carol three times. Who win s the dominants silly the one not in the slaves ass or mouth when the carol stops decides if they should play the carol three more times depending on how my dominants have not yet cum
11. OH little dicks this is easy of all the male slave the one with the shortest dick is spanked twenty five times on his ass and then 24 on his dick with a six inch plastic ruler by all in the room and this is the time when a small number of is a good thing guests that is not penis size.
12. T’is the time for bondage and follies. The poor slave that has had to endure these past 11 tortures should get a rest and a break but hell that is a slaves lot in life tied the poor boy up in your favourite position and then reflect on how much you like to give and he likes to receive so have fun. HO HO HO

time for a change

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A strange thing we humans are. To hear hundred people were killed in a wave or 80 killed in a hurricane seems not to affect us as one shot on a freeway. We stop traffic have vigils leave flowers for the one. The hundred we bury quickly . We grieve over children shot in a school yet ten times the same number die from starvation in the world every day do we build flower shrines where they fell?

I do not feel much difference, as some do , in the hundred or the one as I do not know them. I have not seen them grow as children ,no conversations has gone one over the years between myself and them. I hold nothing in common with them except that we exist on the same planet, we are made of the same stuff.

They are of little consequence to me as they do not share my views hopes and desires they had their own based on their lives and experiences. It would be like saying that I care if they were life-stylers or vanillas . Is it simply because I do not know them that cause my lack of human feeling for them. Why must so must news and stories revolve on the one and not the hundred. Would I care anymore if it did I doubt it.

I feel empathy at most when I see a single child ravaged by a storm , war or poverty yet if I see 300 bodies floating in the ocean no sadness wells up inside of me .

If I am so cold towards my own species then why do I feel inadequate in my help when I cannot stop a dove crying out in pain?

First time

First time for any slave is fraught with emotions.

Can you imagine standing naked in front of an almost stranger as he peruses your body. Not from a far but so close his breath feels like wind. All your imperfections proudly displayed for him to mock. All those hours at the gym that you never showed up for. Hoping upon hope that the sweat you feel does not form a droplet and force itself to run freely down your ribs. Trembling to hold back the moistness that is forming on your genitalia. As his fingers probe and he finds that wetness you can feel his smile and you embarrassment grow. The words no no not there run in you mind as he parts your cheeks to fond the rosebud. Can you relax enough for him to enter oh god have I clean well enough comes the thoughts rushing from thought to thought . His finger pushing through the rosebud gaining access to that area hidden by your ass hidden because it was not to be shared and now it is his.

Pinching and pulling on your nipples and genitalia he leaves that finger in the darkest of regions moving it in and out slowly while torturing the rest of you body with his touches. Pulling out quickly , you clench to make sure nothing follows his finger out slapping on cuffs he raises you arms and then all touch is lost . You feel the coolness and it is all still but for the quivering of your arms. searching with your eyes only restricted by that command he gave to you in the beginning head and eyes for wad. I leave then to have time to feel and take in what has happened . I give them time to realize they cannot go any where with out me right now . I give them time to think I can anything I want to . I give them time to enjoy fear. Fear that their fantasies just might come true.

Then they start to sweat!

Fear

A nasty little word that cause so much to happen in the body and mind of a slave. Fear is mostly an ugly word no one wants to have fear. You fear the touch a sharp knife you might get cut does he know what he is doing ? Can you trust him , why did you trust him?. You fear everyday things like being late , not looking great , falling down you might get mauled by a bear. Fear is an excellent guideline fear can keep you from danger ,injury and all sorts of mayhem. It can also cause danger to appear around every corner!

The old saying a place fools rush in where angels fear to tread. Stands out right now is it saying that angels that are pretty powerful fear that there is something with greater more power or is the fool with too much power and does not use common sense.

Most fantasies in the lifestyle have to do with fear. Kidnapping , imprisonment. rape yet they are in our dreams. Being bound to a cross and waiting for the first stoke to land is that fear or anticipation. Do we fear what we want and let others force it upon us so that we feel someone is saying it is okay it wasn't in our control.

I know that when fear is present the session is electrified. each touch magnified. The dread of what will be has moved from from reality and much closer to that fantasy. Fear causes women to moisten and men to drip far easier. their senses are heighten and their reflexes jerky.

Fear , just the right dose goes hand and hand with enjoyment in my opinion.

Ritual in My lifestyle

I feel that without some degree of ritual then it is not a lifestyle. Lifestyle means just that a style that sets you apart so for me it is protocols and ritual.

My schedule that all my slaves follow is they have a day for a session but also have a defined punishment day. They have a dress code for when they are with me , when they are at home and when they go to work.

They have a schedule for exercising the body as I believe that slaves should be in the best shape they can be. This does not mean all are 5.2 feet weight 118 and 1/2 pounds it means that with me they must care for their bodies as they have given me ownership and I do not own crap. Just because you are 5 foot and weight 250 pound or 6 foot and weight 180 my slaves all exercised.

All my slaves must have intelligence and they must seek to improve this at all times so there is library time entrench in their schedules. There is a time where every week where they can discuss any areas that they are not comfortable with and have time each day for themselves. Daily tasks are incorporated with tasks that I want done.

Slaves are ritually punished . They are told of the transgression , they have to explain why they did what they did not do. They are also punished for poor thinking. Yes I punish even when things turn out good why because they have to understand there are consequences for all decision including not making a decision. Such as If my slave stops to help some one and makes her self late to see me she will get a stroke if she bypasses the person and gets to me on time she gets 10 strokes.

slaves attending an event with me must touch my elbow with two of their fingers to ask me anything . They have greeting positions , punishment positions the list goes on . So why do I do all of this for the pure pleasure of control. I am consistent in then so my slave knows what I want and has guide lines to keep her happy when I am not there. are they some what silly perhaps but it makes life mush easier when all know the rules and that they are consistently enforced

A week of New and Old

I had the delight to be asked to be a mentor of sorts, to an old slave's new Domme. I will not give out her name just yet but her dominant trains are natural my sub side tingled in her presence. I feel She has great strength and compassion which is important . I do not know how evil her mind can be but hopefully I can help awake enough of the evil torment in her to keep minion on her toes. I certainly see the love the desire to complete each other so that is a great start.


I was asked by my old friend Sir to attend the shaving and unveiling of a new sub. One thing I have to say to Sir is I think littleone is right. I have notice that in many of her recent comment she dwells on the idea that it is boring for you seeing her naked all the time . So I thin you should stay with what you did yesterday and make sure she has her nipples painted all the time during the summer along with her mor personal lips and lets not for get the little rosebud you seem to nick but she will not touch her anus i think would look lovely in the same shade if not redder and darker. as for an article of clothing yes she should also be allowed perhaps starting with a rope harness to be worm all day you know to keep parts of her hot . what are your thought of course now the rope colour should match the paint and might I say having her fingernails and toe nails done I would have to say that after examining her tits I have not seen them so perky , at least when squeezed since you applied iced to them . Sir may I say also that your painting was great as you stayed in the lines perfectly

I have a new contract for a partial dungeon so a great week . It brought me out of doldrums and allowed fresh air to fill my lungs you could say.

Three points

I have found that over the years there are three point of worry in a male slave. His balls , his cock but most important is his rectum.

Most will take cbt in stride . It is almost tht they prove themselves in front of you . So slap tickle and tease unless you cut them off they know they will survie and enjoy the pain. They present them selves to you almost thrusting it in you face tempting you to do more . enter the rectum with anything gives them the feeling that they have been fucked. All the jokes come back to them from the locker room " hey look he walking funny must have go it up the ass last night" In school yards in fights and bulling sessions you gt kick in the nuts slapped around but never fucked in front of your comrades. You rarely hear boasting from some one about how his wife fuck his ass so well last night with a strap on. It can be the greatest point of humiliation to a male.

So I start with their balls and cock as a warm up but it is that protected little rectum that I wish to exploit , torture and rape for my enjoyment . They have to be shown if they are a male and a submissive well all they are is a hole with balls and a cock to hold on to. Now if one of them was long enough would be fun to see them fuck them selves in the ass would it not or do they not do that already by being a slave.

Is nothing sacred

Games have always had a pervert side to them. Strip poke , slave, strip chess for those that try to be intellectual about it. Checker and of course, strip and nude Twister.CCS (chase catch and strip) a version of capture the flag. I can go on but i think you understand how easy it is to pervert a game for the lifestyle.

A game that seemed to be impervious to the perverting process was Labyrinth. a game I could take great delight in playing with out being transported back into the mindset of the lifestyle. In California over this weekend I was informed by friends that they did play a game of Labyrinth of the dungeon . The same cards were used the slaves were set to play against each other and the Dominants waited to see who won and who lost. Points were given to each card you found your way too if you won the number of points was the number of strokes given to the losers. If you collected cards but did not win those points were also given on top of the winners. Then anything that could be used for penetration well same rule thought they did not use the sword other implements were used in it's place. Hot wax in lieu of flame that sort of thing. I will not go through all the different tortures for each card lets us just say that they were novel, painful and humiliating so all had great fun.

SO sadly now the next game Labyrinth I play will now conjure up a picture of a slave having a candle stick up their ass while having their sexual apparatus masturbated with chain mail from the helmet . I would suggest that if you are a slave playing this game best try to win. I would hate to think what could be done with that jeweled crown.

My first munch

I attended my first munch in the year 1999. It was held at Moven Pic. I remember going into the area finding a bar armed with a glass of red wine in hand . I had never been to anything in a vanilla setting that involved the lifestyle .
as I approached the area I remember seeing two men one six foot three and the other both bald an dressed in black under six feet in a heated discussion at the door of the area where I was to meet up with the munch group. Seeing the group inside I thought well I felt anxious. I sipped my wine and continued inside. The first munch was horrible for me. I knew no one , did not seem to have common ground with anyone I was sitting with and felt well it was an experience I would not repeat any time soon like a week after the devil found out I was dead then I would go to a munch again.

The following month I was working on a Sunday and was in the area so what to hell I would have supper downtown see if my first feelings were right or not. Since then I have not missed many and have great friendships that developed through the munch.


so why what is the point of this blog ? I was invited to a cocktail party last Friday. What a pleasant way to pass a Friday evening. I went through great trouble to get friends to go with me and getting there to the club was not easy nor the navigation of the club itself to find the party. The idea of a cocktail party filled with conversation and low music died at the door of the club. as littleone said in her blog I felt like I was at a high school dance only I was no longer the student I was the chaperon. I felt old and said that night to myself that I did not belong there this was a new thing for young people not for an old fart like myself. It was nice that they invited me but just was not for me. While I was off kayaking this weekend I remembered who made the munch special for me was the mix of old and new that was there . The stories that Captain told or the European flavor of Kay the devilish nature of Sir and littleone , Lady Greyeyes, Pierre and Catherine known for their appearance on Kink fame. They made the minches not only good but important for me to attend.

So it might not be easy for me to talk over loud music and harder for me to hear I have decided to attend the next cocktail party for a variety of reasons. As they are younger than I they might enjoy my stories and thoughts. You never know where or when you will meet the perfect slave that you always wanted or perhaps more important I might meet the slaves that needs what I can give. Hopefully I will find new friends if not at least learn a couple of new tricks.

Not everyone's cup of tea and I will not drag anyone out to it but I feel it is important to keep and give support to this event so yep I will blindly trip over waiters and smile even though I might not have a clue what was said as long as my presence makes some one happy then I will be there.

Training days ahead.

If you have read this blog before you have come across some of my methods and thoughts on training . I was asked about my training methods most recently from a male sub on collarme . So I will delve a bit into them today but it looks like I hopefully will have a nice little ass to enslave shortly. A male from the area seems to have a nice ass to beat so looks promising.

First , my thoughts on males serving males . I do not use them for sex I love to torture them and put them through their tasks and duties like drilling a regiment. I do dehumanize them a bit they are treat rougher than the females and always lower than any thing else I own . The good thing men's tongues seem to be a bit stronger then the females but I guess that is just too much of a generalization. SO we will see.

SO first off will be an exam f the boy.No not like the Clock Work Orange no this one usually takes about an hour. The probing of his orifices will take at leas fifteen minutes then there is measurements , stretching to see how flexible he is . Ability to balance in different positions.

So hopefully lots to look forward to should he agree to my ways and protocols.

Four rocks

I Have been on vacation for a little while in Maine. The sea air the calm days and the fog have allowed many thoughts to come forth and my mind to clear some what. Before I start blogging about starting my search for a slave I will relate a story one that was told to me while sitting out at a lighthouse 7/8 of mile out in the ocean with only man made ten foot wide rocky bridge as it's only access.


It had intrigued me as why would any one build the bridge to put a lighthouse on it and that there are weather warnings about being out on the bridge and the light house in inclement weather. A few had been struck by lightning and others swept away out to sea. So of course seeing warnings such as that I had to go out and see this lighthouse. The day was a bit foggy and there was a mist hindering the view of the lighthouse from shore . The journey out was not easy as the bridge was not flat but large stones laid down so it was a bit of flat rock climbing With deep crevices about 6 to 8 inches wide between the stones. Some points of the bridge you feel as if the sea has made tunnels under this stone bridge as your feet feel the force of the waves on the bridge. On one side of the bridge an old ship . A few fishermen near that point heard me question out loud the name of the ship and could not resist telling me their version of the story of the bridge

Well it seems that a fisherman built the bridge. The reason was that he heard a song coming from the sea from the first rock. He had almost lost his life in a storm so was a bit fearful of the sea now. He did not want to go out in a ship nor boat but the song lured him back everyday trying to see what was out there on the first rock. That is how the bridge started he put a rock in the water to stand on then another and another until his bridge nearly reached the first rock. Lighting a fire in the early morn he saw what he thought was a women in the water behind the rock. As she sang she turned and once catching a glimpse of him submerge. Sadden by what he thought were old sea eyes he went home to return the next day again the song was there but distant it was coming from the second rock. Of course you can see where this is going every time he made his bridge out to the next rock the song would change to the next one further out. Until the forth rock. Seven eights of a mile out I am told is a drastic drop in the ocean floor. By now his bridge was of a concern to shipping so he built a light house at seven eights of a mile Every night he would light the lamp and sit on high in the light house waiting to hear the song and perhaps catch a glimpse of the shadowy figure that hid behind the rock and in the seaweed. No song no sighting since he had been there .

A large storm with high waves and fierce winds had struck the area as he sat there in the light house he heard the song once again and there she was in the flashes of lighting staring at the man behind the glass . The fisherman left the e safety of the lighthouse and stood at the very furthest rock of the the bridge he had built at least that is the supposition. The fisherman was never seen again the light house was found with the doors open and windows broken .

Some say he was lured by the witch of the bay and that she needed him to be in deep water before she could capture him. She had used her song to lure him out to the sea, Others say it was an inquiring mermaid that forbidden love caused the demise of the man. Most just want to say it was a bad storm that is all. Those that say that though cannot explain a few things . The windows and doors are now boarded up because whenever they restore the windows to the building they mysteriously break in the night. There is an old ship half way along the bridge that suddenly appeared after the fisherman disappeared. It sits on a sand bar no one knows the name nor what happened to it a few suppose it could be the fisherman's ship the one he almost perished aboard. Now I stood at the the last rock where he had and I felt a draw to take the next step I felt a breeze and calmness out there the song might have been just the lapping of the waves that is what it sounded like to me and the rocks are there but I did not see any forms lurking about just some seaweed just under the surface of the water near the last rock.

I guess his love of the sea or at least his addiction to it was too great and he had to find a way of returning to it. On that note it is time for me to return to or star searching for a new slave I guess I too miss the song of my sea.

Who is the toy

A question I have been pondering for some time now. IS the submissive or slave that is the true toy. They give pleasure they serve as required by their master. They say they are there for the pleasure of the master but I have doubts if they are the toy or not.

When first we meet we have some areas of interest taht are similar but it is the master that usually asks what the slave's fantasies are, what are the slaves hard limits we cater to those needs or desires . We push limits usually in ways that we have interpreted would cause greater flight or orgasm in the slave. We give orgasm and flight and we have them play out their fantasies by serving us . So who is the toy is the slave a toy by which we reach orgasm or is the master a toy so the slave reaches their desired level of flight .

I have always enjoy the power that I supposedly have when I dom mostly I enjoy being able to force multiple orgasm from my willing slaves. Seeing their limp bodies on the table in a cold sweat wondering if they could do with just one more is most delightful. Does that make me just another form of a vibrator or dildo.

Of course these are just some thought of mine they are not the new way to think for slaves just remember how red you ass will be and how sore your nipples and the rest of you to gain those orgasms so do not think it is just fun and games after all any dildo can hurt so calling your Master a dildo might not be a good idea you might find out just how few orgasms a dildo can give you and how much pain.

I really cannot keep up. Dominant collars, bottoms, subs, slaves and now we have a boot camp that has discussions , workshops and I guess little dollies on the tables. Hmm could be the start of an old guy rant so watch out. I have always said I do not have anything to do with bottoms or subs as I do not understand their needs. The term slave well I understand them very well . The idea of a Dominant wearing a collar because they like it as a fashion statement well I do not have a lot of respect for catwalk Dominants so understanding the reason for a collar beyond me.

Now I received an announce for a Boot camp. To me tht means an intensive training for a slave to get them up to par, so bondage , flogging , sweet tortures over a two or three day period / Or it 'could mean a training given to a slave for a certain period of time. WWwwwwwwwwwwwwHen did it become a talking affair with discussions and workshops. In my day (oh oh here it comes) a slave in boot camp only got to scream no talking, they were taken to a work shop for punishment or a fitting for a new toy not sitting around listening in a workshop that was called a workshop or a how to session. What Boot Camp has a great name to it so it is a better marketing tool so more people will spend more money on what some one else's idea of the lifestyle . How about just attend a munch and ask so of the more experienced how to there is no charge and you have an across the board selection of evil minds from which to draw from. Check out the link Sunday munch group at the side sign up and go. You can ask me anything if I do not know and that is a lot of things I do not know but I can point you in the right direction.

What is that you want to attend one of my boot camps well first bring only the clothes on your back, if you wear a collar expect to be bare ass and whipped and no amount of "I am a dominant" will stop it do not expect to talk much you will use your mouth to say yes sir, to scream or grunt and to do tongue exercises. Oh if you do not want to have to run everywhere , learn how to serve and be polite when you are in pain or stressful positions , have evil tortures forces upon you or be naked in front of others we;; a boot camp is nt for you you should attend a workshop and see if you like it first.do not show up. As for you marketers a Boot camp is for on hand learning a workshop teaches by demonstration and discussion please do not confuse issues just to sell more tickets. A work shop is a workshop not a boot camp.( old guy has gone to rest now rant over)

Sex, reward , punishment ?

First I love comments that stimulate dialog. Do not get me wrong I enjoy those that agree or like my writings. I like dialog you can learn so much more about others and your self through open dialog.

First of all the question have you ever had sex with one of your slaves? I have never had intercourse with a slave for the past 27 years. The only one that came close was minion. SO does that mean that my slaves never orgasm ? No it means they orgasm a lot as my slave. I use orgasm as a torture device so both as a reward and punishment . Through denial and forced orgasm they spend much of their time away from me achieving the tasks I assign many of those have to do with orgasm. For the denial of orgasm they usually are given the task of masturbation lets say every two hours but must stop just before orgasm. This could go on for a day or a week depending how I feel. Many methods to force orgasm wearing a thong backwards while at work another is tell a slave they must masturbate frequently during a day such as achieve five orgasms in two hours . My favorite is when I will not see them for a week they must masturbate once the first day then twice the second doubling each day or increasing by a one depends how I feel. When I do see them they are a little raw , a little sore to my touch rendering them quite docile when I approach the subject of orgasm with them.

When I am with them I like to see how many orgasms I can inflict upon them but again without intercourse. Whips , paddles floggers vibrators brushes their own hands or others but no penis .

I can go further to describe my session and would be happy to but I think the question about sex as a reward I have to say yes as A punishment I have to say yes just not with my penis. I find that in a state of orgasm for my self I loose control and I do not feel that is right for any Dominant to loose control how can they be responsible for the out comings of the session or time with a slave if you are blowing your load especially if a person was in bondage and suspended with out some one else around.

Now as far as boring being with me well a witness, littleone did my slaves complain to you that they were bored or that I did not give them more time? ONe last thing I will say that before a slave enters into any form of play with me they are told the ground rules one being no intercourse with me so no one is miss lead they know exactly what they sign up for.

Now I love to talk on my sessions or my views on slaves and their treatment but I leave that for another blog . So a question to those that commented if intercourse was taken out of your relationships and replaced with only orgasm would you still enjoy your submissive lives? Another would be and forgive me for the graphic nature of the word, Is getting "fucked" an integral part of being a slave ?

Fickled mind of a sub

My how subs are . I was sent photos of a friends session. naked and suspended. A lovely sight. Now in this position there is not much you can hide from the view of others . How more exposed can you be, I thought. She said she had sex in that position and it was wonderful. so obvious question for me anyway why was she so rewarded what good deed did she do to warranted such pleasure. The answer I got was it was private. Hmm how private can a sub be after total exposure is the reason far more coveted than the act

Is there a book of rules?

I have written about this before at least about rules. There is not a book each of us have different ones. I have now been aske d if you were writing a book of rules what would you put into it?

Now that is hard as a lot of freedom must be left for the individuality of play otherwise we will be like the vanillas Oh it is Tuesday so it is dogie style tonight . So for me I think the rules would have to do with conforming on Collaring , Owner ship . what the slave provides what the Dominant provides and of course release. Should there be group of lifestylers that would hear and rule on things. Do we want that much control really. We all say it would be nice to have a book of rules but deep down do we want one.

Two cases which affected me might have gone to that group of lifestylers. Ling a former slave to me was a long distance slave . I perceived she need more than an on line Dom so I gave her to a mutual friend the question would be did I have the right to?

Syrah owned me as I do switch remember. I was hospitalized not because of her by the way ,during her ownership and we drifted apart . I never ask for release nor did she give me one am I still owned by her? I do not know if that would have gone to the group or not I know in vanilla life there are laws that govern abandon property ? SO could she pay the back taxes and re-claim me?

I was under the impression that if a slave asked for release and was not grated one by their Master they could plead their case in front of two others Doms. Not every one in the lifestyle has heard of this. If they agree with the slave they could do the release but if they are not elected to this position how could this be binding on the Master should he choose not to respect it . Perhaps his honour might be hurt that is about it.

Last of just a few complications that I have thought of as far as having a book of rules, punishment or compensation . A friend of mine and I were joking around about copy right that I did not have right to use pictures of me that he took. So if we brought such a case before the book what happens does he have to spend his weekends in the stocks or am offered up for a hundred photo sessions that I am not allowed to use but he is. Or should I just take the place of the women staked out and let him him stand in the bushes taking the photos and the fun ?



So having a book written by some one else that I can say I use would be great but but might not. Rules are not always interpreted in the way you think they should be. SO writing one would be a great dilemma Words would have to be so plain and direct and cover everything in the lifestyle. We think we cover everything with contracts and collaring but do we. I have never written how a slave is to leave my service I do not think . Hell come to think of it I have never really got a formal release from any that owned or collared me so does that mean I am sort of a bigamist to be sentenced at a later date when all the claims of ownership have been heard then judge who still owns me if anyone just too complicated for me I think I will just write my house rules and if I own you then I rule on whether or not you are released, when you can pee and just how often I get to slap your ass that way it is simple I say you do , simple. Now if some one says that to me, well hold on there.Where is the book where is that group of judges? Is that not covered in the book of rules ! Are you sure that is the way it was supposed to be interpreted? Naw you must not have the most recent version ! (LOL)I think I better stop here , I might have already hung around too long !!!!!!!

A vanilla trade

While looking out the window observing life in general some thing struck me . Since and early age I love to watch people working , plumbers , carpenters , road works and garbage men. Well back then they were all men so I guess to be correct I should ay garbage persons.

The persons have change from the beer bellied men that hung on to the truck even for a few feet then labored off to throw a few cans of garbage in the truck then climb on board till the next house. Now they are thin in stature , great shape , they run behind a task master of a driver , who must be a dominant. Before they have the chance to finish at one house the truck is edging up towards the next. A perfect scenario for a slave. All that would have to change would be that they were naked , okay they can wear shoes, gloves and a hat but that is as far as I would go , well maybe a butt plug just so that they wiggle even more. Hmm and a tail attached to the butt plug to keep the flies away( a very deep laugh has overtaken me) Yes naked men and women pursuing the truck with tasks to do . Well the only improvement I could see would be to add a task master or as a friend calls the position a bossy sub . Some one to whip those following behind or perhaps just to make the tasks even more fun who knows. Oh so much fun could be had and at the end of they run they could be ties to the side of the truck with legs and arms spread wide apart for the ride back to he depot, that would cool them down after a hot day. Once there they could be left on the truck , scrubbed and hosed down or removed and washed what delicious fun of course the crews that were too slow the alpha sub would be punished at that time then the alpha sub would punish their crews I am sure that would improve productivity!

The vanilla world could benefit greatly using some of the lifestyle techniques could it not?

Open for viewing pleasure

A friend wrote her story after readings some one else's. She then in her blog encouraged others to write theirs. She has also said on numerous occasions that Dominants do not write a lot of blogs nor do they with any consistency.


For the first part , my story ah no. I do not like to be that open . I will answer questions to those that ask mainly those interested in me as a Dom but I feel at least my opinion Dominants should hold back They should not be as open as subs as they are not on the selling block. I was always shock as one of my comic book heroes, Batman was portray in the movies as some one who so easily gives up his secret identity to any piece of fluff that comes along. When I used to read Batman his secret identity was just that, secret. SO I would prefer to remain with my cape and hood on and keep some mystery at least a shred of it.

As for Dominants not writing a lot or expressing their desires or I think she said baring their souls. Well I have written over 300 blogs under Darklights banner or Cloud and another 400 under drakor. Perhaps for me I have done enough baring of things. I have always used an expression knowledge is power , being that I am a bit controlling, giving away power is not a great idea. My friends and slaves get bits and pieces enough for their needs . As those that might read my blog, well, I do not know their needs so I will wait to be asked to dole out such knowledge. What I give here is my opinion on the the lifestyle, some of my thoughts on sessions or experiences I have had with slaves, interaction with my friends and a few other things.

As for Dominants not blogging frequently , yep that is true. If we blogged everyday or at a certain time during the week would that not almost be a task. As far as I remember , and it has been a while, Dominants do no have tasks. As for when will I write next? When I have something to say.

The Pet a movie

I should say a movie that should have been kept in the cage under lock and key. Unlike the Secretary , I felt it did not explore anything of value. The movie tried to be something to everyone and missed terribly . It in my opinion put the lifestyle at least the pet play aspect of it as not really sane. I will tease you with this bit. The pet after two days is asked if she wishes to continue for six months, She is told she will be kept in a cage not have access to anyone but her master and will be marked by branding after her six months she gets 50,000 dollars and supposedly goes on her way . With a branded ass of course. What is her only question does the branding hurt? Hmmm putting red hot iron to your lily white ass does it jurt hmmm let me think on that one!

How many of the slaves and subs out there would agree after a two day trial to be branded ? OH why the brand because you accept a 6 month contract by some one you just met . Yes that is a sane thing to do. Then we are presented with the idea that all owners are or know white slavers. Another sane part if you have no intention of selling this person who signed a six month contract with you why bring her to party put on by the white slavers for the purpose of showing of slaves on the auction block?

The plot did not flow , the dialog did not flow no delving into the feelings or love that could develop. The scenes were sort of nice yet never went far enough to make the film interesting in that manner. I think the scenes were put together hodge podge did not show the training The old pornos of the sixties and seventies in the porno paneled rooms had more plot , better dialog and at least action that went along with the idea of the movie title.

I was expecting to see a look inside of pet play . What I did get is that Masters are all members of organ selling slavers , slaves and subs are too stupid to know what sane is and we make anyone who is sane a slave because we have that power. I think I waited two years to see this movie I am glad for that as I did not pay for the movie and will not buy the DVD so I saved money .

NOw for the good parts of the night: I was with Mistress Lisa so we laughed at moments that were just too ridiculous especially at the sad ending. I finally met Dunter and saw the Loft. I enjoyed meeting and talking with Dunter and those that watched the movie with us . I also enjoyed the tour of the loft always fun to see and find out new ideas and thoughts.

SO thumbs up for Dunter and the loft and as for the movie well I think it should be put down , given the needle , put out to pasture and never seen again. If you do have to see it well may I suggest a poop scooper and a bag to put it all on

I love when I read profiles and they say do not contact me unless you have read my whole profile. It goes to show you how few do read the entire profile. I am a switch but I use two distinct profiles and blogs. Why? Because of the confusion the word switch cause so imagine asking the same people to read all the way down to the end and then expecting them to understand what they read just too difficult. Then there are those that write a very clear profile usually with a statement Do not contact me unless ...... So I do not only to be contacted by them. When they ask after finding out that I saw their profile why did I not contact them? Well I read you profile have you read mine or at least have you read your own you would know why I did not .

Now I am more into what i call , so no one take offense the true from of the lifestyle meaning when I Dom there is no sex yes my slaves cum they reach orgasm but no sex occurs between us. Licking my feet my ass I do not consider sexual nice, it excites but will not make me cum. They have gotten to lick or kiss my male parts but again not to the point of orgasm and certainly they are not allowed to cum while they are. So to be precise as long as my organ does not touch or enter the vaginal or ass then there is no sex, do darling if you want ruff sex next profile please.

It is clear and concise and if people would read my profile well I would probably get a lot less responses. Of course I do love having the opportunity to tell them how inept they are in their ability to read and of course I use kind words until they send me the second email. Lady Evyl has put a question on hers about her toothbrush I have not ask her but I think this might well eliminate those who read with their organ not their eyes.

This thread will be continued in Drakor's dungeon just in case you reacked the part of my profile that says I am switch.

Sweet scent of submission

While I was cleaning and repairing some of my toys i notice a difference in the smell of some of my toys. Yes there is a smell to a slave or submissive. First for me is the leather of toys used on them. The sent of the leather mixed with their sweat. The aroma of their aroused state while they a performing their service to you. Not much could be sweeter could it. then there is the wood in paddles and rods that take the scent of a slave . I always create a toy selection for personal slave and ones that I can use on any one. They are varnished and after their use on one and before the other are disinfected and cleaned. These carry not scent perhaps a lingering smell of alcohol or Javex nothing else.

The ones i make for a specific slave well they become like the slave individual in scent and colour. Each of us have body oils in our sweat so after a few times the usage will show on untreated wood . The scent of their submission is there trapped in the wood. Cleaning will remove the trace of blood it will take away most of the body salts but not the oils. The oils claim the toy for the slave. They darken Pine ,cause cedar to go a deeper red they add distinction to the toy.

So nice to have so many good memories encased in wood and leather

Human or inhuman , the perfect life

The strive for the perfect life for all is a quest by humans that seems to have come about recently. About the last two thousand years. I question it's validity in that it is a proper quest for the species. It seems to wrap itself around carry the weak of character as well as mind and body forward slowing the race of where we are headed, could be oblivion but most species are headed there . The definition of what is human and inhuman has for some reason been reversed and our true nature hidden by writers of fiction ..

when we left the trees it was not through negotiation with other species as to what we could have it was through cunning , sheer brute and at time overwhelming force. The offering up of those humans that were weak to the other carnivores was a natural thing as all species did so. We encourage the line to made of strength not of weakness and sickness. Our quest for perfect lives has meant the destruction of other species , the remaking of our habitat. We have used violence to gain what we wanted and violence is more of our nature then the quiet poems of peace and tranquility. Birth is violent , making love is in itself violent if anything death is the most peaceful thing that we experience not the act of dying but the state of it.

As for definitions through our our history we have torture, maimed raped and stolen went home with our prizes and laughed at the is fortune of our victims. We have bulled those that were weaker into giving us their food their money their daughters and their sons to continue our wars. Yet we use the definition human when we reach down to a child and offer it bread or spare it from some in human horror. We sit back and watch some group of people destroying another and recoil saying Where is the humanity why does not anyone stop this.

So for the Science fiction writers or poets wish to describe a perfect world or kind actions do not use the word human . Those that wish to describe some fantasy world of being good to one another without the threat of force or violence please say how inhuman you are or describe a sloths world to your readers.. That you wish to change man so quickly, the blood has not yet dried in our teeth and you wish to claim us vegetarian. You do not have to accept who we are or how we got here ,just use the terminology correctly for at least a few thousand years that will make me happy and you might want to make me happy since I do not mind using violence or force to get what I want and torture just brings a sweet smile to my face. Yes in the future i might be branded as a Neanderthal but with out those like human thoughts and more the will to break the barriers and fight and kill where would the human race be. Ask the mammoth the next time you see one?

They who think they must be obeyed

I have just finished reading a rant by a pro Domme. I am sadden to read it I had some respect for her . She rant on about her subs the ones that are paying her for her service how disloyal they are and she has to answer phones calls for information and then they do not book with her. Then she tried to put her self on high as other in the business were just off from the street hookers that they did not have proper training inferring that some how she was special.

So a little note to her if subs are calling and you are not getting bookings perhaps our answers lack what the sub needs to hear. If you live the lifestyle unlike the others then how many personal slaves do you have and have you had I have never seen you with any? You are providing a service but if subs are going else where perhaps the service is not up to their needs. As for the supposed massage parlors and hookers that offer Domination, they have a their customers .

The only statement is that Pro-Dommes should be trained. Most Good Pro Dommes that I know were subs before they were Dommes. They understand what it is to desire to serve and those that did not had slaves before turning pro. Word of advice for subs not every Pro Domme is a pro nor are they every subs dream of a Domme. Ask a lot of question before. as for that pro domme well I think a course in marketing 101 might be a good idea for you and remember the last person claiming to be a god was nailed to a cross.

Just bugs me when people with some power because of title talk out of the wrong end .

end of rant

Timing

A blog that little one wrote about role playing and what is real and what is role play and the article yo will find at the end gave rise to this blog. A very good piece by the way but overshadowed by the article who's link I have included.

A man who search for his piece of this lifestyle has met his end in a accident during a bondage scene. First I would like to say that no matter how much a slave begs to be tied up and left I will not too many things can go wrong as in the song by meatloaf I won't do that. My dual sides both love more extreme play and yes I have wander off in the night to an unknown house and played and probably will again in the future. I am also one to say as a slave tell me how nasty you are going to be not how safe you are.

There is a certain amount of safety expected I do not want to think about safety as for me it takes away from the excitement of it. All degrees of the lifestyle are at times not safe whether it is role playing or bondage there are elements in all that can cause bodily injury as well as Mental injury.

Role playing I feel is a bases for the lifestyle . It is how we are start through our fantasies and the wish to bring them to reality. As little one pointed out not always fun to do as she mentions her attempt to mimick a scene in the movie Secretary.

Now this man went to clubs a lot most probably had played with the Dominatrix before his role play to have all the elements of his fantasy included being left alone. An extreme that probably most of us have not reached in our sessions . His role play was far more serious and real then our most painful whippings. Sadly our fantasies have the ability for us to survive past the point of no return when we dream , reality holds different laws of physics. All bodies cannot twist that way or this and every one is not just out just to enjoy the excitement, some do not think accidents can happen.

It is the unknown , the lack of control , the realization of our fantasies that drive us in this lifestyle but it is up to only two people the slave and Dominant. One must give up control and one must accept it and all the responsibilities that goes with it. That whether it is for an hour or 24/7 is very real.

The article from a listing of the New York Post on Fark.
HANGY SPANKY
KINKY CLUBGOER IS CHOKED NEAR DEATH
By RICHARD WILNER, LARRY CELONA and LUKAS I. ALPERT
S&M MISHAP: Police seize bags ID'd as leather straps from The Nutcracker Suite sex club, but they did not arrest dominatrix Taki Noriko.
S&M MISHAP:

Police seize bags ID'd as leather straps from The Nutcracker Suite sex club, but they did not arrest dominatrix Taki Noriko.
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February 9, 2008 -- A leather-loving submissive was clinging to life yesterday after a freak accident at a Midtown bondage club cut off oxygen to his brain, law-enforcement sources said.

A dominatrix at The Nutcracker Suite on East 33rd Street called 911 at about 1:30 a.m. after finding the hooded man turning blue in a dungeon room as he hung by his arms.

He was also wearing nipple clamps, a dog collar and women's high-heeled shoes, and his hands were cuffed behind his back, sources said.

The man was rushed to St. Vincent's Hospital, where he was put on a respirator, sources said. It was believed he had suffered brain damage due to lack of oxygen.

In keeping with the secretive nature of the S&M scene, the man was carrying no identification and only signed the name "Roger" in the pain palace's guest registry. But sources said he was a regular at the club.

Cops were using his MetroCard to try to track his movements and identify him.

His particular fetish was to have himself trussed up and left alone. The mistress he was working with, Taki Noriko, 30, of Williamsburg, told police that she elevated him just enough to cause discomfort but that his feet were still on the floor.

"It was an accident," Noriko told The Post.

She said that she checked on him every 20 minutes. At first, he was fine, but when she went in a second time, she found that his foot had slipped out of the shoe and was turning blue.

Police took Noriko, several other whip-toting mistresses and the club's manager in for questioning, but no charges were filed. One woman was arrested on an outstanding and unrelated warrant.

Cops removed several bags of evidence from the club, including one labeled "1 [one] black leather restraint."

While S&M activities are not illegal, the state penal code seems to leave open the possibility that those involved could be charged with assault - or even manslaughter if the man were to die - if a grand jury were to rule they acted recklessly.

The club, which is tucked away in a suite in a nondescript Midtown office building near the Empire State Building, has operated for more than a decade and is a well-known masochist mecca among devotees of the bondage scene.

The erotic emporium was once featured in a 15-minute documentary called "Paradise Bound," which screened at the Sundance Festival in 1996.

"It's a lot more common than you think. It's lawyers, doctors, athletes, everybody," co-owner Robert Fluty said in the film.

Fluty could not be reached for comment, and messages left on the club's voice mail were not returned.

On its Web site, the club lists candle-wax dripping, electrostimulation, bondage, role play and flogging among its services. Sessions cost $185 dollars an hour and are by appointment only.

Rooms are thematic and feature floor-to-ceiling mirrors, bondage beds and trusses.

One room, called The Inquisition Lair, features a leather-strap cage and a St. Andrew's Cross.

Another called "The Clinic," is described as "the ultimate for medical role play."

Additional reporting by Philip Messing, Rebecca Rosenberg and John Mazor

richard.wilner@nypost.com

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Gods

There was an episode of Star Trek the original series that found the God Apollo. they had to destroy the god to get away for his wish to worshiped. He was not really a God all he had was greater technological abilities . SO when he came to earth he had looked like a god. So the Humans lifted him on to a pedestal and bestow upon him worship. Was it wrong for the humans to have done that?

No not if Apollo had provided something more to the humans then showing he was more advanced. He did not draw the sun behind his chariot every day we know the sun did that all by itself. I had a chat with a former slave the other day and she mentioned a phrase ( I know what you are thinking) Well no Dom does , they might now how some one reacted to similar situations, they might know what they like or not they might see that the slave is pensive after an occurrence and perceive that the slave is thinking about that but they are not Gods. We like good trainers watch for signs and react to them .Sir Stephen in the story of (O) in one of the endings tell O to go and kill herself. Well Gods can kill but so can man. No for me a God must be able to destroy and re-create that what was destroyed that would be Godlike it is the only thing I would put on a pedestal .

I was told recently that I had been on a pedestal. If I am to anyone out there please take me down. My slaves fall in love with me because I give them exactly what they want, the strictness, the constant attention , the punnishments the control , most of all I force out of them what they want but what they themselves cannot admit to. That is not a God it is a human, some have said I am perfect as a Dom no that is not true, I choose the slaves that like what I like and they choose me for the same reasons. I have said this before I do things my way they are right for me if you like them then please do as I do but do not come to me complaining they do not work for you. I am one voice expressing my view my way of doing thing.

I am CLoud not a god. If you want a God go find religion

Birthdays and fun things.

Birthdays are of some importance and should by all means be set apart from the rest of the year. More so in the lifestyle than vanilla. Why? Well any time or event that can bring bare hands to a bare ass is of considerable importance do you not agree? . Yes the fun practice of birthday spanks.

To make the day special for slaves I do ot give them any sessions that day not tasks except they must be naked all day. After all occasions and dress codes and I think the birthday suit was developed for this purpose. It gives freedom of movement will bringing out the best in a slave.

Birthday spanks for should be the number of years pus one. The question of should all you attend divide the number between them or should each deliver the full amount? A side question should only the Dominants give the spanks or should all in the room including the slaves , subs and other friends be given opportunity to deliver the most desirable of gifts on a birthday by a slave , a red bum.

I personally believe that all in the room should deliver the full number times those in the room with out exception.. So each would deliver the number of years and one to cheeks of the birthday slave. I feel this way the slave will remember happy times of birthday celebrations for days to come. Or at least when they sit.

Other fun things to do that I have heard about . Mudding , yes that is what I said where the birthday slave is covered in slimy yucky things such as mud, honey , cake , what seems to be around. You then l;et them sit for a while not allowing them to touch the dirt or themselves. Usually the number of minutes is the same as the years of the birthday slave. Then the fun of watching them try to clean them selves with some useless piece of clothe or just their fingers. When the goup feels they have humiliated themselves enough with the group can help the slave clean themselves or throw them in a shower.

Now there are several other but this one is a favorite for me. Ice cream. The slave put down on a table or floor has scoops of ice cream place at the crotch arm pits along the legs. For this you have to tie them in place for as the ice cream melts the urge to giggle is just too strong and would ruin the fun for the Dominants in the room if they wiggled too much. Asian remaining in place at least minutes counting as the years but like birthday spank it could be multiplied by the number in the room. What then you say well do not Dominants have tongues!

Oh what happens to Dominants on their birthdays? Well in my case if I have a slave at the time they get to enjoy it twice in the year and if I do not well Happy Birthday Sir would be most acceptable!

An interesting subject

On alt I found a thread about punishments. Regular punishments that happen at acertain time on a certain day for slaves. I was interested as I have always done this in the past. Fridays were the day I use for my slaves. I liked it as it started the weekend off on the right note a clean slate you could say. The slave knew that it would happen no matter what and they knew exactly what they would receive as they had to keep note when a punishment was assigned.

Yes I did punish on the spot for offenses but some I wanted them to think on. Th e preparation for the punishment was also important unlike the immediate punishment the slave would have to uncover only their ass and back as that was the area I do reserve for true punishment. I have been told it is uncomfortable to have pants around your knees and sweater and blouses bunched up underneath arms which made the punishment even more yucky for them.

They would have to read out the infraction on what day and how many were assigned, mistakes on these facts doubled the punishment. They gave their reason as to why they error and how they would correct it for the future. Then they put down their punishment book receive the punishment then pick up the book and read the next. This continued until all were taken care of then the slave would kneel in a corner and reflect on their conduct. Now I am all for slapping a slave when ever I feel like and when a error that is small in nature occurs immediate punishment is fine but recurring lateness, rudeness and poor decision making deserves them to think on just how much it will hurt on Friday before they get to have any fun.

Posting ,blogs and other wishes of subs

Well it seems s if all Doms have not been posting on a regular bases shame on us. Says it right there on page 191 on the bdsm rule book that Doms must post and or blog. Ggees sounds like the first time a women said I had to get in touch with my feminine side and when I did I got slapped for ruining one of her dresses.

My personnel feeling is that when I dom I blog in response to stimulus around me. Questions or events that have cause me to ponder then I feel I must comment on what stimulated the thought. How I would or did handle the situation. So no stimulus then no real need to blog.

How ever when I sub well I can easily turn out several blogs in a day , they may not all be good but the stimulus is there to write. While Domming I have evil thoughts and plans since I am the one doing the work in sessions I guess I am more subdued. As a sub I have evil and wicked thoughts and desires in those the idea that they could happen is wildly exciting. Another difference I guess is as a slave or sub writing is one way you can say to all the Dominants, Look at me pick me. As a Dom I feel you must be far mor reserved and not let the subs know every mminute detail about your thoughts. Should some sub really want to know me well it is easy strip and let me tie you to a cross and see what you can find out from there.

I do think that all Dominant should take notice though that the subs are uniting on this front of wanting Dominants to write more. I used to paint on my slaves and a friend likes to use a marker. I guess this type of writing is not enough. Perhaps thoughts should be given towards branding or scraping I know of this one sub that had 6 scraped onto her breasts. Now would that count as a form of blogging as it was on a blog , pondering again,my my Dominants' work is never done

Honesty who has to be honest

A blog written on alt asked what would you do as a submissive if you found out your Dom had lied or not been honest. A surprising number of responses were that they would leave the Dom. I guess the only tool or punishment a sub has is to take away what they had given to the Dom. There is no Dom punishment stick perhaps there should be I do not know Now does that mean honest with their sub or honest with themselves or both.
i believe that out of the two roles it is the Dom that at all times must be honest. I feel that subs and slaves will tend to leave things out deliberately at times. That is okay for some things not for things that affect their health. Such as the slave wants breath play but refrains from telling you they have had a crushed larynx. However not telling me that they pee when excited just gives me an opportunity to humiliate or tease and torture for the offense.

A Dom that does not tell the person, who has put their body and mind in the hands of a Dom, his true intent or feeling as to owning a slave is just looking for disaster and a soon a bad reputation. So I believe that the Dom has to be honest and upfront at all times. As for the sub being dishonest well they have an ass and I have a punishment stick no need to go further on that subject.

Yoga

I like all of my slaves to be in shape that does not mean that you have to weight 120 pounds and stand five foot six. Just that you be healthy exercise regularly and take care of your body.

The role of slave is not for the out of shape. This position has been attained by my last two slaves . Minion and amanda. They have enjoy dildos and masturbation while holding this position . amanda made a foolish statement that the next time she was late she would hold this position for ten strokes of the punishment stick. she was good for two which surprised me as the stick is a five foot piece of bamboo. It is delivered with the same technique as you would deliver a katana. The nice thing about it is that it always marks but the subby usually does not re-offend.

as you can see the position exposes the buttocks and legs stretched so pain is a word I think would describe a punishment delivered in this position amanda used some other term which started with Fuck and involved a horse and a duck in a very strange configuration as well as some natural body functions . any way the picture best describes it .