Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Preaching

I was on a discussion group when a post was made. It professed that the lifestyle was better than the vanilla one for battered women because we had rules and discussed things before hand. Some how I do not think the author of this post truly understands what battered means. Yes the lifestyle tend to talk and discuss more of what they want but do they touch on anything else. I know that a few of my subs have come from relations that I would have to say were abusive at best. They might have talked a lot before have but once in the control of a monster you are manipulated no matter what was said monsters have a way about them. They take the trust you have given and turn it against you.
The ones that have come from these relations started out as being happy in relations that they thought were healthy. So just to have a reality check we are not perfect we have monsters lurking about as do the vanillas and we must always look our for ourselves .

2 comments:

morningstar said...

agreed Cloud........ and for the record we do NOT self police ourselves.. NOR do we have lifelines /protection for these abused subbies - well no more than in the vanilla world......

in my opinion.. His theory tends to make people feel safe and complacent and tends to allow a submissive to feel protected by a community that is mostly talk and not a whole lot of action...

morningstar (proud to be owned by Warren)

morningstar said...

jo.. and who is to do this denunciation?? a sub who didn't like the way a Dom played?? another Dom who didn't like the way the Dom played??? or someone who has an axe to grind?? Trust me when i say.. there are no tried and true life lines in our community..

morningstar (owned by Warren)