Training

Such fun little subbies running their asses off to please. That is what I like to see I do not like fools errands but I do enjoy the fear of disappointment. Training is best when there can be consistency I feel,so from now on my ling will blog twice daily once by 12 noon Dom time the other by 12 midnight Dom time. Every day starting January 1,2006.

When ever she masturbates she will have to have the intruder in for half an hour before hand. Spelling mistakes in blogs and emails will be punished once a week on Wed of that week. Sunday night will remain the mirror night exercise routine will have to be back up to schedule by Jan 30 th. Including the time and now that she has a camera she wall have to send a picture of the positions that she has learnt and the new ones I will give her. Normal routine of emails still in effect and I believe that story should re-start soon. When not working the dress code is in effect which is Dresses only no underwear and a bra only when needed. When ever ling is with a Dominant she must follow the rules that I have set forth . Last for now ling is to be naked when ever she can be pussy shaved, her back straight and ass out. Yes I like training.

And now 2006

Well Christmas is over and soon New Years will pass and it will be back to the norm. I have to re-start lings training she has almost healed so now is the time to get down to brass tacks. Her first task will be to get into shape something that she was doing very well with until the accident. The protocols will have to be review new positions assigned and she has to expand her circle of friends out in the west.

I have started back again to my exercise routine ouch that hurt I never learn. I should not stop them ever too much a pain to re-start after the holidays. I will attempt to find a surrogate for any punishments that require more than the intruder. I must get back to my toy making I have a new rotary tool which should be a lot of fun. No Sir no attachments that should be used on subs at least not yet. I am in a quandary as to how to give ling a feeling of closeness over such a distance. Oh for a teleportation device now. I would like to take a course on leather. Of course I would like to find one or two subbies to play with here.

I think that is all as far as what I intend doing this year

A very Merry Christmas to you all

Enjoy the holidays with your families hug the small ones.
I hope you all find the happiness
that I feel at this time of the year.

Merry Christmas

Christmas is packaged and put under the tree

I have finished my wrapping, my decorating and I await a phone call for the last gift which if it does not come I have a replacement for it. SO the marketing is over for me now I start my Christmas spirit of baking , being of good cheer and remembering those that have good cheer about them. There are those like a neighbor of mine that does great decorations has the Christmas spirit well he yells at his kids for getting water on his car and he is off between xmas and new years but his kids are in day care I would guess that needs to rest after all that Christmas spirit then there are the grinchs. Those that are decorations challenged shall we say.One such person is a Grinch that I know does not keep Christmas well I would say. He is always berating the holiday and bah humbug that. Yet the rest of the time he spends driving friends around who can no longer drive. He is kind to any one he does not have to know you to extend his hand to help. He sits with worried wives waiting for their husbands to come out of surgery. He is always trying to organize events for that people can get together to enjoy themselves and he wants his borrowed grandson to enjoy Christmas. Yah this grinch is a nasty one at Christmas of course the rest of the year he is just a great friend.

SO to my friend not of the Christmas spirit, you are a gentle soul and I wish you the best all year long. To finish on a note of mystery have you noticed that you never see my friend and Santa together?
You could say they sometimes look a like. They both like harnesses and whips. They both like a little bit of dress up and they both like the cold .Secret identity hmmmm, harnesses and whips involved hmmm. You ever know!

Tis the season to be naughty

Well yes the sub is in trouble again after a few days of the old intruder punishment some one has missed deadlines. What to do hmmm spanking, no my hand is too far away, bondage, no someone would like that too much , intruder time well maybe.

Funny how subs seem to take on too much yet are not willing to say so especially to their Doms. The one person that has control of the situations that he places in front of them. I do not mind failure it gives me the opportunity to torture them sweetly they know they are wrong not much to prove so the prosecutor part is easy the judge is easier but the executioner is so much fun. Should I punish publicly lets say at a party where a certain sub would become a practice toy for Dom/mes on how to insert intruders and retract them, or should only a few know that the intruder is making someone uncomfortable .

I do have a soft spot and at this time of the year it shows more than at others we Dom/mes should have it removed, as a matter of interested my sub has said she is happy that I have one but would not want to see it too often . So and I am doing this to make some one squirm should I hide it away right now and inflict the demonstration upon you as well as other punishments or should I hold punishment, embracing my soft spot and instead judge you on Jan 1st? Careful how you answer my ling I would have lots of time to plan punishment for Jan but you would be able to sit through Christmas dinner far easier and have more time to do your preparations. If you postpone. You have to tomorrow to let me know in a comment here, oh come January we will be working on organization won't we.

Impressions scolding and punishments

Well last night I came home from a visit with friends and found an email from my sub ling. Actually it was an email from a mutual friend of ours.

This impressed me because I had scolded ling for her lack of enthusiasms for completing tasks. Mostly due to poor organization I felt and trying to squirm out of those tasks she did not enjoy. The scolding took place in an email she had time to for her to offer explanation for her actions or accept guilt. she show strength in accepting guilt right away and awaited punishment. More than she would do the punishment was she had to blog about it I know she did not like the butt plug and worse to have to start every communication with me or in her blog with the phrase the butt ply is in Cloud must have made her squirm.

I knew that last night was a terribly busy night for ling with all the catering and it was the last night of punishment so I felt if she did not complete all her tasks I would scold her but not continue the punishment for I felt she had learnt her lesson. All this to say I was impressed that ling went to such lengths to compete her tasks of last night.

I do not reward for tasks being down usually as they are expected but when such extreme measures are used I am impressed and say so. ling I am impressed. So lets us say now that ling is unplugged for now which will make her rosebud rectum very happy today to sit around with out the intruder.

Christmas or can I be Santa next year

I have tried to stay away from a vanilla Christmas blog. I just did not feel like re-living the joys of Christmas past I would guess. So I will Grinch a bit. Instead of my childhood Christmas that were truly reflective of Christmas I will recount the joys of Christmas at Grandma that I have be subjected to the tortures of extended family xmas. The horror of transporting small children to grandma every year at a very exciting and emotional time then telling them that if they miss-behave there is a little strange man that hangs around with elves and cleans reindeer poop from his beard , after all birds crap when they fly, he will decide on that one night whether or not to give them coal instead of a present. This after a year of convincing our children that there is no monsters in the closet or under the bed.

Then there is the procession of showing off the little darling to aunts and uncles and people that I never met before but some how became life long family friends this year. Of course there is the petty arguments from the children not the young ones but their parents as they fight for the attention they never got at Christmas from their parents because they were too busy entertaining the unknown relations that seem to multiple with each passing year. So here I am trying to keep my children performing for the mass of adults that are there for drinks and food and don't care if little Johnny can do a magic trick by wiggling a loose tooth. Then there is the interminal question why do we not get together more often that is when I would just like to give them all mirrors as presents and ask then to look at the image in it for the answer. Last there is the statement oh the children are acting up well it is midnight the kids have not sleep in anticipation and the fat guy has not shown up with the presents yet because we are following a Victorian decree that says you must torture the children so they are so near to tears that they open their presents at midnight and at 12:01 will fall asleep crying with joy, not for the present or good times but that it is over.

Is it over yet no now we must trundle them off home and put them to bed so that sugar plums dance in their heads while Mom and Dad put the damm toys together with Korean instructions so the fat guy gets all the credit. Finishing just in time for us to have a tea no not sleep it is time for little voices of cheer and bright eyes to open and rush down the stairs. Ripping through paper and Oggoling bright shiny things sitting on parents laps giving hugs and kisses. Oh well I guess for the hugs and kisses it is sort of worth while but now that they have grown up they are getting a bit heavy on my lap. Have you notice one thing Santa is never home with the family on Christmas eve, this is when I scratch my Grinchey chin and go hmmmmm.

Do we need a reason to play

No we do not. The punishment in all forms whether plays session or true punishment is a need the Dom fulfills for subs they desire both one less than the other but it must be present without it the relation losses edge. Does a Dom like having a reason? When I punish I must have a reason, in a play session I sometimes use a reason of a slight infraction being the bases for sending my sub flying, I used it sometimes as a reason to push limits . True punishment where there is no warm up just a lasting punishment to correct action yes I need a reason.

That said I do enjoy catching my sub's infractions. It is a high for me to watch her squirm to see her trying to talk her way out of trip to the middle of the room. The severity of the infraction will decide for me whether it is a play session or a punishment session. So enjoyable to see the expression on their faces when they have been caught for something trivial. I can see the thoughts as if they were written above their heads in a cartoon bubble " shit I can't believe he remembered" or the best "oh fuck he going to use the rod" . I love to see the giggles and dancing as the anticipation builds in their pussies, it not matter play or punishment it is there. So enjoyable is it not So to answer a question often ask by a friend No I do not need a reason to play but it is really fun to have. And for ling when you read this and before you comment you better have that butt plug in my pet.

Too open or not

When I first started to Dom it was a few years ago. In a private club as you entered you were presented the little subbies, that wished to be used as toys. Others would be in serving out fits but the ones for play would be kneeling naked and in silence awaiting selection. Each had a small ribbon attached to the clubs collar. The colour signified how extreme they were willing to go. You as a Dom had a list of what the colours meant and away you went. There were no questions, none were needed. No question on safety or limits the colour defined what the sub was willing to do. The Dom/mes were verified by the members. The one that introduced you and the owners so that club play could be intense and safe. If some one saw and inexperience Dom with a newbie sub someone would make sure the new Dom was informed to go easy. Playing was simple and fun and intense.

Now since we are a little more out of our closet we have check lists , endless conversations on safety and finding out limits. I think we spend more time talking and emailing and discussing then we do playing. Perhaps somethings should have stayed in the closet. Now of course the quantity of individuals that say they are interested or are in the lifestyle have increased but has the quality remained.

Why am I writing about this I just wonder if this was 30 years ago how many individuals that are on all the bdsm personals would have attended the Clubs and sat in naked anticipation waiting to be chosen by a Dom/me with out the knowledge nor the choice of who it would be.

Photos

Mine is dark and suggestive of evil things that go bump in the night. That is what I wanted to reflect and I think I was successful. Some will say I am hiding , well not hiding but I do want the subs that apply to be intrigued of what is behind the mask and if asked I will send a photo of my face to them. The pictures of women I have noticed are mostly artistic, daring, fun and enticing. So what is wrong with the male sub. I either see pictures of them standing with hands on hips grinning ear to ear as they show off little Willie which I am sure cause Dommes to flit and flutter right to them demanding their service, ya right . Then there is the flacet dick saying look how big it is with out an erection. The best is the flesh tower an erect mass of flesh very submissive is it not . To me it suggests horny guy can't get it anywhere else lets try the kink places.

It must be so exciting women must call each other and say hey new dick with a pic I guess it must be the only way for men to be judged. Perhaps they chat over coffee and doughnuts discussing whether or not it would fit in the doughnut whole. Well guys it has been my experience that Dommes would talk about how well the penis would do in the hot coffee not in the hole.

Some artistic work guys might prove helpful in securing a place with a Domme. Try working a bit with lighting show some body and face not one or the other. Be playful, frisky ride a horse naked if you are muscular then show photos of you working out in shorts or in the nude just be different. If you are going to wipe out your trusty sidekick then show them that it is in the service of their desires not for your pleasure. Once you are talking and if you are asked for it then send your best photo of man's idol along.

Just my thoughts