What is a Dom to do

There are in my opinion, duties a Dom is responsible for in a relation of lifestyle. To make the sub achieve the level of enjoyment they seek from you , to achieve the level of submission or slavery, to help them better themselves and to protect them from themselves and from others in the life style. All attainable in a normal lifestyle relation but not all in a long distant relation. It is very hard for you to protect them against themselves you only have words to draw their feelings out of words to judge them by very poor tactical information to go on. Many times you can be successful but to protect against others I found it to be impossible I must rely on the eyes and judgment of others third hand information at best and I have to rely on how honest my sub wishes to be without seeing in her eyes that she hold back knowledge that she is not comfortable with. The best individuals that are guarded slip once in a while but it is not through a structured email maybe a bit in a chat but rare no it is in person in heat of discussion unfortunately a pitfall in long distant relations.
ling was attacked by a paroled maniac last night she received injuries and spent the night in hospital she fought him off and the police have him in custody but there was no knight with sword and shield to protect her or strong arms to hold the injured flegeling. Pit falls are not something that is a challenge to over come they are dark pits of despair which you must claw you self out of and hope not to find another. Congratulations to ling for the show of strength and confidence in her self . Both of us are in our own pits and now must claw our way back to where we were.